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writes: I need some advice on how to handle a situation.me and my boyfriend have been together for 14 months. out of those, 4 have been long-distance (we live in different continents because of college). We have a lot of history together, (i was his first time, we traveled together, he was there for me when my grandmother died) and even though at times i think that i am not strong enough to continue, i find the strength needed to realize that it is worth it. When we are together everything is amazing. and when we are apart,, well.. it could be better. but that is expected cause of the distance.Yesterday, my best friend here, whom i always shared my secrets and troubles, declared that he really really liked me and wanted me to give him a chance.I have not considered it, and i am scared to even consider this. He is a nice guy, a bit arrogant, but really nice. we connect and the obvious. he is here.me and my bf are just beginning college, and we would be 5 years doing long distance if anything.. What most worries me about our relationship (me and my bf) is that it might never lead to anywhere.. we think differently, want different things and have different ways of seeing things. He is my age, hence he is immature in some aspects.. and I am scared that i would have been committed to a relationship that will never move on forwards.my best friend is my age too, but he is much more mature, and we have a lot of things in common...help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010): Hi,
I'm in a bit similra situation. I've been in a long distance relationship with someone in the military for 3 years now and although he's away I feel I love him the same. I have another guy from work who likes to flirt with me and likes to be near me.
Sometimes, I feel like I enjoy his company and I do actually, and sometimes I've wondered where is my relationship is going. But, when my guy writes to me or when we talked on the phone, my body still trembles and I feel like my stomach have the same butterflies like when I met him and the other guy simply goes away in my mind. I asked the same with you. Do you feel any of this sintoms when your guy talks to you or when you think of him often? If you do is b/c you still feel for him, if not I would recommend you talk to him and see where is this going......If you can make him a visit on your next vacation to put things straight. Long distances relationships are hard and very painful, I know that for sure, but when you really love someone, you'll love them no matter where they are and can wait an eternity for them.
My opinion and feelings about it. Good luck to you!
God Bless!
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reader, stella-confused/angry  +, writes (7 January 2010):
Do you love your bf or not if you feel nothing id gonna happen talk to him tell him how you feel if things get worse give your friend a try if things get better his the one that really loves ya xxx stella-confused/angry
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