A
female
age
30-35,
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writes:I have been going out with my bf for about a month now and a half, how we hooked up was him revealing his love for me and i gave him a chance finally. I have been hurt many times with ppl cheating on me and it is taken me a while to stop being scared of being hurt. But i have worked on it and he gave me his word he will never hurt me.He is a hard worker and sometimes i fear that will interfere wit him being with me. He has been going through financial problems because he lost his job lately and it bothers him a lot,i know he has been looking for jobs and a place to stay instead with his sister because he don't get along with her husband,he came over to spend time with me tuesday and i talked with him wednesday and thursday.Friday i didn't hear from him or saturday or today sunday. I have called and even text him, but no reply. I really miss him and i can't stop thinking of him, i can't really eat, and i feel like crying i just miss being around him and its not even about the sex i know. Is this love? or what? i am confused.Its been long since i gave my heart away because ive been cheated on plenty!. Am i bothering him, he can at least call to see if i am ok or lemme know how he is. Just a hello and ttyl or something, A text....I miss him very much and i know he is a good man even though he has some flaws.Should i just give him some space seeing how what he is going through, i want to tell him how i feel about him there's so much to say express to him, but how can i if there's no answer.
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reader, growing up +, writes (13 April 2009):
I think you are just so afraid of rejection that its not even about him.. its about you.. stop calling him and give him space.. the more you push the more you will push him away... there are no guarantees in life especially to love and relationship we all go thru hurts and disappointments, you are not that invested into him a month and half is not a long time.. be strong take care of yourself and maybe find a support group were you can ask the qs why do you gravitate towards men that you don't really trust,, look at your own feelings and stop giving him excuses.. just no that you deserve so much more then men cheating on you and disappearing on you.. hugs
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