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writes:I have written before regarding my confusion on what appears to be a painful episode of unrequited love with a guy I seem to have developed a very close friendship with. It IS unrequited because he is in a long distance relationship he is loyal to BUT, can any guys in particular help me to make sense of how this guy is treating me, because I on one hand feel I am being clingy in that I am quite emotionally attached to him, but he does seem to enjoy my company and we meet every few weeks when he has the time. He cooks for me, spends time talking to me about his problems, listens to mine, is very sensitive and confides in me all manner of intimate problems to do with his family and himself. The trouble is, I really want to be closer so I cannot follow my instincts to be with him more frequently but I do not want to crowd him out. Without my requesting such information, he shares with me his business travel schedule that only include his two adult children and his 'love' abroad. he has introduced me to his children and his mother. What I want to know from guys out there, is what you make of having this kind of platonic relationship with a woman. Yes, I find it incredibly painful emotionally, yet somehow I cannot break off from him even if it means being a surrogate sister!He encourages me to meet other men, but I just do not have the heart. I am in my 50s and apparently still desirable, but although I am privileged to have several 'nice' men available to me, I just cannot feel the spark I feel with my 'brother'. Part of me wants to wait to see if his relationship works out, but I could be wasting my life. On the other hand, if I make the best of what I have, this guy may eventually want me and I would have been lost. I have been there, done that already and have just left a 27 year relationship that was built on the same sand.Come on guys, what do you make of it?
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