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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:I hav been good friends with a doctor for over 3 years. We hav a special relationship infact people that we work with think that there is something going on between us. He is realy sweet, pays a lot of attention to me, notices a lot about me. Infact we will sit for hours talking about anything, he even notices when I'm not arround.nothing physical happened between us, he never told me he feels anything for me but is actions makes me believe he does and he does not that I actually like him. Anything I ask him to do for me he does it. The problem is he just got divorced a few months ago, I knew he was married and going through problems and didn't want to interfere , now I found out he is having an affair with a married women because she saw my sms on his phone and called me. I'm so heart broken, now he acts as if we were never friends and told me to stop smsing him because we can never be friends and there will never be anything between us I'm so confused how can he act as if we never were friends or shared anything?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2010): I wouldn't take his actions personal. It seems like he has just been through some hard times, and isn't handling it so well (affair). His change in friendship has nothing to do with you. It's tough to lose a good friendship, your pain is understandable. He may not remember your friendship but cherish it for what it was while it lasted. You will have to move on. Make another friend at work.
Perhaps he did have feelings for you, from what you say it sounds like you have feelings for him. If you did, knowing he was married and going through problems and by (not want to interfere) not being there for him, chances for a relationship are gone. And he is not stable enough that you should consider him (affair). Again, I suggest you cherish the friendship you had with him while it lasted, but move on.
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