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female
age
30-35,
*atalie-ann
writes:hey all... bit of a dilemma lol.. i am gay and i recently met a girl who is also gay. im 18 and she is 23, we got on really well.. and i started to fall for her. One night i was out with friends and her friends and i told her best mate i liked this girl. well its obvious it got back to her. my best friend said that she flirts with me a lot using body language.. i cant see body language at all. so a week later my mate went up to her and asked her if she liked me ( i know i was actually unaware of this) her answer was " to be honest with you _____, im not over my ex yet and nats a great girl, i wouldnt want to do that knowing im not over my ex... then my friend asked her if there wil be anything in the future and she said "i dont know." she still flirts with me, well, did up until friday.. her ex came out and upset her, id had loads to drink, bear in mind ( i know its not an excuse) i said to her that ill knock out her ex ! thats bad becuase i know she isnt over her ex.. but nothing was mentioned afterwards. she knows im not a violent person, well i hope she does...in fact i hate it am probably one of the biggest wimps ever lol, i was wrong and i shouldnt have got invovled.. i dont even know her ex.. neva seen her in the club. i text her the next day apologising for bein a t**t but she didnt text me back. i saw her that night and i apoligised to her, she said its ok but i dont beleive it is. I feel like an idiot.. this woman is amazing, she lacks confidence i dnt know why but shes amazing,, i have fallen for her and i dont know what i should do here are the questions:what should i do? i like her i think of her all day everyday...its driving me crazy and to be honest since friday ive been really low i hate the thought of it not being the same as before.why do i have such strong feelings for someone in a short period of time?if you guys dont think she likes me or there is nothing there how do i get her out my mind?im sorry this is long thanks for your help xXx
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (4 October 2007):
 Lesbian ex problems are the WORST! For some reason, gay girls always have billions of exes who are always popping up all over the place and there's tons of drama. I don't know why it's like that, maybe because the milieus are so small and everyone dates each other and you always end up dating your best friend's ex and your best friend is dating your ex's ex and etc etc etc...
Anyway, that's beside the point. She says she's not over her ex yet so you'll have to give her time. Wait her out and see how it goes. For now, you can't do anything else, unless you want to be the rebound chick. Don't worry about Friday, you didn't do anything terrible, she's probably more depressed about her ex at the moment and if she thinks of what you did she's more likely to think "how sweet, she wanted to be gallant" or something. Give her a bit of space and wait. DO NOT BECOME HER SHOULDER TO CRY ON. Good luck!
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (4 October 2007):
 Blimey, you are mixed up.
Firstly, you say you are gay. So you either are?, in which case you just have a crush. Or your not and you are bi-sexual. The girl may also have mixed feelings, and is coming to terms with this as well.
I have quite a few gay friends, mostly male. And they say they couldnt bare to touch a girl...down there, but have loads of girls as friends.
I personaly would leave her alone and let her get over whatever she needs to. She knows how you feel, so if she does have any interest in you, let her come to you. But she does sound as though she still misses her ex, so you could be in for letting yourself get hurt.
Your only young, so whats the rush XX
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