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writes:I'm just very confused right now about my feelings towards one of my teachers. At the start of the year I didn't pay much attention to him, and didn't really like him that much, but now as the school year is going by, I'm starting to develop some strong feelings for him.There are some days when it seems I have really strong feelings for him, then other days I don't. I don't know if he has noticed me acting a little differently, but I'm also starting to see some changes that he's making too. For example, every day during class when he's talking, he'll mainly focus in my direction, or directly at me. I sometimes catch him looking at me while I'm jotting down notes, then he'll do this weird blinking thing and look kind of embarrassed. There's also a countertop kind of thing that's behind where I sit, and now and then he'll walk around to that spot and sit down/lean up against it. If I pass him in the hall, some days he'll look at me and do a half-smile kind of thing, and other days he'll pass by, not looking at all. I just don't know what I should do right now, because I'm starting to ask him simple questions just so I have an excuse to go up and talk to him. If anyone has some advice I'd appreciate it. Thanks!
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reader, loveprincess  +, writes (15 March 2009):
 i sorry to say this but
DONOT GO THERE
DONOT TAKE THE NEXT STEP
U WILL NOT BE ABLE LATERON IN LIFE TO LIVE WE IT
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reader, 14sj14 +, writes (15 March 2009):
Hmm this is a tricky one. Sometimes if you fancie someone so much, you tend to see things that you want to see. Maybe he is just being friendly? and you think he's looking at you, when maybe he isn't. Im not too sure to be ohnest, but remember your young and he's your teacher. Would he really lose his job on a teenager. Just keep the healthy relationship you have with him. Don't take things any further untill your legal age, and not in the school anymore. What attracts you to this man? have a good think.
i hope this had helped at allxxx
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reader, kitty_3 +, writes (12 March 2009):
 i'm going through the exact same thing... like, at the beginning of the year i hardly paid attention to the guy and then one day i looked at him and had all these new feelings. and i can't seem to shake them.
i'm not sure what advice you're looking for, but if you want to talk PM me!
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (12 March 2009):
 Type "teacher" into the search this question gets asked about 3 times a day, you'll find a lot of good advise out there. But I haven't got time to type it up again.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (12 March 2009):
 Don't try to start anything with him.
First of all, it is a form of abuse for him to do anything with you. He is in a position of power and influence over a minor. In more ways than one, this would make him a sex predator.
I don't doubt that he is a good person, but don't put him in a position to have to acknowledge this attraction.
If things get too bad for you, and you really cannot concentrate in his class, ask your counselor about changing your schedule. Or, you can wait things out since you only have less than 3 months left of school.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2009): OK, this 'answer' isn't going to directly address your question. But maybe it will help.
When I was in jr. high (middle school) there was a teacher who was unusually attuned to us kids. Where most of the teachers were some sort of unapproachable authority figures, this guy just really seemed to 'get it'. By the time I left the school, I actually thought of him as a friend.
So I was completely blown away a few years later to learn this same teacher was in court on charges of sexual abuse. Turned out that he'd been having sex with several girls. And the girls later on realized that it had been a very bad thing. The teacher ended up doing 6 years in an institution for sex offenders.
Kiddo, don't go there. It might seem cool that he's into you just now, but it won't do you ANY good. Don't spend time with him alone.
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