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Question - (26 December 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 27 December 2009)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I've been single for almost 3 years now, and it seems all girls ever do is use me. I recently started talking to a girl online, and she's cute and funny, but after just knowing me a day she said she loved me, and I told her I loved her too, which was a big mistake. I don't know if I really feel that for her or not. I mean sure I get butterflies when I'm talking to her, but that doesn't mean I love her. Well, my ex girlfriend and I just started talking again because I sent her a text saying I'd always be there months after she said she couldn't talk to me because her gf didn't like it due to my significance to her. I found out her gf dumped her a couple months ago,and I never completely got over her, and I never will. We talked for over an hour last night, and it hurt to say goodbye. I really want to be with her, but the last time we ended up dating it didn't end up well for me. She's not good at the whole long distance thing, but maybe now that I have a car it could work. I don't know what to. My hearts conflicted. I don't want to tell her I still have feelings for her because I'm afraid she'll stop talking to me and we won't even be friends, and I'd rather be something than nothing.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2009):

Before I was the one making all the effort although I admit I didn't try as hard as I could have. I regret that because she is the best thing that ever happened to me,but I'm not sure she feels the same. Either that, or she is just as afraid as I am to admit it. As far as her willing to come visit me she does have a license and a car so she could drive the 6 hours to come see me whether she would or not I dunno. I'd like to think I'm worth it, but recent studies show I'm not. Although she did say during that phone conversation I'm not the most horrible person in the world. I guess that counts for something.

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A female reader, taylor8790 United Kingdom +, writes (27 December 2009):

taylor8790 agony auntLong distance relationships can be tough and both people need to be willing to commit and travel to see one another.

You could tell her that you still have feelings for her, however would she be willing to take the time to visit you?

A relationship should never be one sided and you should not be the one making all the effort, it takes two for a relationship to work.

So if you still wish to tell her, make sure you arent heading for more pain and heartache.

All the best

xxxx

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