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writes:When women are asked to describe qualities they want in men,confidence is always near the top of the list. But what does it really mean to be confident? To me confidence comes down to having the belief that you will beable to handle anything that comes your way. No matter whathappens, you'll deal with it. Confidence is important to women because it helps them to feelsafe. If a woman is with a guy who communicates that he can handleanything life can throw at him, she doesn't have to worry about it.This allows a woman to relax and take a more feminine role in theinteraction. Confidence begins with positive self talk. Successful people haveinner dialogues of success. They don't beat themselves up when theymake mistakes, or focus on past failures. Instead they keep theirthoughts positive and productive. If a girl isn't interested in you when you approach her, there'sno point in being upset, instead focus on how you've now freed upyour time to meet a girl who will like you. Always remember to ask yourself " What is good about thissituation?", " What can I learn from this?", and " What is the mostfun thing I can do right now?". Confident people aren't afraid to get rejected. You have todemonstrate to women that whether or not they like you has nobarring on your confidence. You have to recognize that rejection isa part of the game. The best guys I've ever met with women getrejected. A LOT. You will never be able to completely eliminate thenumbers game element of approaching strangers. The more you getrejected, the more you will get laid. Confident people have confident body language. There is a distinctlink between physiology and emotional states. Imagine a depressedperson. What does their body language look like? If you're like most people you probably imagined a guy or girlwith slumped shoulders, a distressed, nervous look on their faceand even shallow breathing. Now imagine a person who is confident. What do you see? Again mostpeople imagine someone with good posture, a beaming smile, slowdeliberate movements, good eye contact etc.This is getting a little long now, so I will keep you updated in the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2011): Think you have covered everything - personally I prefer a man who has a wicked sense of humour and actually listens to me. Confidence is ok in mild doses, but over confidence is a killer, I would rather have a man who quietly gets on with it and doesn't shout about his success, he just is what he is... and is shocked when admired or chased by a woman.
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