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female
age
30-35,
*roken Wings
writes:I am 19 and I've been in a long-distance relationship for 4 years. I live in the United States and he lives in Europe so we only get to see each other once a year, during the summer for 3 months. Everything has been going great though, we talk everyday and we even made plans of getting married this summer so that he can come live here with me. Even though at the beginning of the relationship we cheated on each other (he once and me twice)until we realized we were wrong and decided to start something serious.We even got engaged and he gave me a gorgeous gold ring. Everything was perfect until 2 weeks ago( right after I left Europe),when he went to the seaside and met a girl. There was some attraction between them and apparently he told her he will break up with me and be with her. He asked for a break and after a series of questions he recognized the existence of the other girl.He then told me that he wants to see if he can cheat on me(but that he doesn't believe he can) to prove that he is ready for the big step (marriage). I was shocked and the pain was invading every inch of my body. I feel lost without him and I can't believe he can give up on a serious relationship like we had for a girl he only met for 4 days. He is now basically playing a game of picking one of us and getting confused when everyone criticizes him for leaving our perfect relationship for somebody he doesn't even know. I am suffering a lot because of him. After comparing our relationship with this new one and getting mad at me for talking directly with that girl he then finally realized what he did to me he started telling me that he is sorry and that I should trust him and everything will be fine. During this time he keeps asking his best friend about which of us should he pick...like we are some insignificant objects! I am really confused and I don't know if I can trust him again or if I should give him another chance after all the humiliation. I am not even sure that he will end the relationship with that girl or if he will continue it in secret. He waits for my decision and says that he wants me back. What should I do?
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reader, babybiy  +, writes (5 September 2008):
 dont go back to him he hurt you for someone he new for only a couple of days and he's treating you two like objects. like you've been together for 4 yrs and you'd that he would pick you.
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