A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I am heartbroken, lost, and confused. I met this man at my work. Very exotic and spoke spanish (which always gets me) and i was attracted instantly. Time progressed and we began to talk. We hung out a few times and the 2nd or 3rd date we were having sex. Finding out that he was 12 years my senior and i am 20 didnt bother me at all. I felt like this one was different. I had said first off that i didnt want there to be any strings attached, but i realized soon that i liked him more than i had thought. I was sure that he was talking to other girls but i just kept hoping that he would see something in me that was different from all the rest. I was afraid that i was being fed lines but knew i was falling deeper and deeper for him. We would hang out and just have sex and would talk for hours about our lives and our past and things at the job. Recently he was transferred and might be coming back to work at the establishment where I am still located. I dont know what to do when he comes back. He left and didnt tell me, feeds me lines like how im his best friend but why wouldnt he even text me or tell me when he told everyone else? I also found out that he was talking to someone else, for sure. When i confronted him, all i heard excuses about how he was sad and wanted to tell me in person and blah, blah, blah. I know that it was all for sex now and its heartbreaking. But i dont know what to do if he calls or texts me. I dont know what to do if he comes back. I dont want to fall back in for it again and i dont want him to know he affected me.Help! Any advice?
View related questions:
best friend, heartbroken, move on, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, hurtb4  +, writes (17 November 2008):
Firstly, I'm sorry to hear bout ur situation, just seems like he charmed you all the way to bed, obviously you did not mean nothing to him been in the same situation myself and found hard to move on, just think you are worth so much more than him and I will tell you know that I think he will definitely text or call you, as you are there and always will be as far as he concerned just show him that you better than him and tht he means nothing to you, good luck hope this helps x
A
female
reader, AuntBeth +, writes (17 November 2008):
 It sounds to me that you fell hard for this seemingly 'perfect' guy, and ended up being just another notch on his bedpost. But don't settle for being a notch, sweetie. Eventually, you'll find a guy who loves and cares for you with his entire being, but this man isn't that guy. If he returns to your workplace, don't ignore him completely, but make sure he knows you are purely friends and colleagues now. Don't have sex with him again, answer his calls and texts with only friendly remarks, and try not to be alone with him too often if you'll feel tempted.If you need any further advice, feel free to drop me a line. x
...............................
|
