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writes:This is completely and utterly ridiculous- trust me I know that. But after about 18 months of the single life I've completely surprised myself and developed feelings for someone. Only problem being he's not remotely interested!I met him last week and we had a kiss. We swapped numbers and he said he would text. I texted him once but he didn't get back to me. So on principle I deleted his number and haven't contacted him again. This stuff normally doesn't bother me. I genuinely believe what's supposed to happen will. But I can't stop thinking about this guy and it's driving me crazy! I don't know what's wrong with me. I never expected to feel like this because it's been so long since I've had any sort of feelings for a guy, never mind such strong ones. Ever since I met him I've been in a constant battle with myself to stop thinking about him. I don't know how to get this guy out my head. And the worst thing about it is I reckon this is karma- a way of restoring the balance because usually it's me that turns down a perfectly nice guy because I just didn't have the right feelings. And now the first time I have those feelings, he's not interested. I'm so angry at myself for getting like this. I could really use a straight talking to because I want to snap out of it. I know I'm being ridiculous but I don't know how to fix it so any help would be appreciated!
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reader, lildeesbg  +, writes (26 March 2009):
 I think you are being very hard on yourself. There are times when people put up this wall and someone, somehow gets through it. Maybe you are ready to open up alittle more with the opposite sex. I think you need to explore why you are so angry at yourself for having feelings for someone. Honestly, maybe this guy was just away to make you aware that you are ready to date and explore things. Instead of being hard on yourself, get to know you were so disappointed in why he didnt work out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2009): I feel like your being a little to hard on yourself. You have a major crush on someone, that's okay! Your not being unhuman (is that a word?? haha), or abnormal by developing this crush. Don't beat yourself up for it! Let yourself feel what you have to feel and then move on with it. I know you had said that this is abnormal for you so it is a shock to you, but maybe it's telling you your still alive and there are people out there that will shake you around a bit rather then your usual "This stuff normally doesn't bother me. I genuinely believe what's supposed to happen will." Sometimes we have to make something happen, it doesn't always come to us. So, I wouldn't think too hard or negatively on this or put any more importance on it then necessary. There might be another message your suppose to get out of it.
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