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*ragonslayer
writes:I like my co-worker but she is involved with another co-worker and has a child. We have been spending a lot of time together at work and outside of work, but she complains about her bf a lot. I constantly tell her to stay with him and try to make it work. But I hear "what's the point of he doesn't love me" all the time is her response. We flirt A LOT, but nothing happened yet. I'm just wonder do I have a chance or is she leading me on.
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reader, Dragonslayer +, writes (25 June 2017):
Dragonslayer is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI would any relationship that does come out as result is doomed to fail, I know that. Plus, i had no ulterior motive. I was just being her friend because besides her bf she doesn't have anyone. She isnt lose with her family and friends and I know what's it like feeling alone. Even if we did i couldnt live with myself knowing im athe reason their parents split. it would probable be years before we got together, plus she would have to come to that decision herself that she didn't want to be with her bf.I was being dick, she was like why you acting like that. So, she started getting mad at me. Well, anyways I told her, why I was being dick that I like her she said she didn't see my that way. Which I kind of knew. She was like can we still be friends I said no. I told her she doesn't care about me, she said that's not true. I told her I was going to do me and she was like don't say that. So, I pretty much blacklisted her, I got off schedules working with her and blocked her number. I know I'm doing the fucking most. I get that fact she doesn't like me, I'm cool, the shit the pisses me off. Her bf is a boring 5'5 white boy with long hair, no hobbies, no interests, no plans for the future, weighs less than 100 pounds is a lil bitch boy and runs to his mom when they get into. He smokes weed and plays video games all day. Me: I'm 5'6 muscular, a bit shubby(I'm broud/wide). I write poetry, I go see plays, i like go out for drinks, I'm great with kids, my funny, I can communicate my emotions, I read self-Help books to become a more round person. I am more entertaining person. Read dozens of books on relationship. To basically sum up my personality I'm a masculine straight guy that like female shit.I don't know why every female wants me as friend and not a lover. But every gay guys wants to fuck me........IM NOT GAY, just in touch with my emotions. But if I treated females like shit I would be swimming in pussy!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 June 2017):
 I have met someone that lit up my life but he was single so things proceeded.
Right now HER life (as far as her relationship with her BF) is not going so well so it's NOT hard for her to USE you (since you are volunteering) to make herself forget about the troubles at home with the BF and make herself feel better. Does that mean she wants to BE with you? Hard to say but not right now at least, she RATHER stick with a guy whom she isn't happy with, than make the harder choice to leave.
Do you think no drama will ensue if you two take it further? At least WHILE she is still with him.
That she might regret it and regret YOU, because after all HE is the father of her child. So many younger women/men stay with the men/women they procreate with out of a sense of it's "better for the kids". I have seen it. MANY times over.
Right now she is in NO position to BE "anything" to you other than a "friend". But you aren't BEING a friend if you have ulterior motives.
Going after someone who HAS a partner (no matter how rotten that partner is) RARELY works out for people. thinking that SHE is the ONLY one who can "do it" for you limits your options again, your choice.
This is your life, you do you. Of course, I don't know the whole story so I can only go by what you bring to the page. And in MY experience this won't end well.
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reader, Dragonslayer +, writes (24 June 2017):
Dragonslayer is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCongrats honeypie you we're right SUPER FUCKING FRIENDZONE......no Women wants a nice guy. I fucking quit!
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reader, Dragonslayer +, writes (23 June 2017):
Dragonslayer is verified as being by the original poster of the question1. I don't want a gf, I been single for over a year and a half bitches aren't hard to get. Finding a women that understands you as whole and not just parts of you is hard to find. It's not about lust or drama, it's about someone who has the potential to understand every part of me. 2. I thank you and I appreciate you comments and advice, but she isn't someone I want to fuck, she is someone who is very important to me. She is one of the most caring people I ever meant.3. Have you ever met anyone how instantly lights up a room, someone who makes your day better because she is just there. That's how I feel
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 June 2017):
My guess is she is using you to make herself feel good. Think about it. If the BF was so horrible don't you think she would dump his sorry bum?
Would you want someone YOU are dating to flirt with other guys behind your back? Does that seem like a great girl?
If anything happens at all YOU will be the rebound and a REGRET for her. She has a kid with this guy so he will ALWAYS be part of the kid's (and thus HER) life. Consider that too.
If she IS looking for a replacement of the current BF, how long after YOU start seeing her before she will look for YOUR replacement?
You asked about this a week or two ago and people told you to keep it in your pants and not get involved in coworkers drama - but you seem to think that doesn't matter...
Use the head to the North and think.
And if you want a GF that badly why not look OUTSIDE of your workplace? If you try something with this girl and she doesn't really WANT that, you are then making the work environment for ALL of you awkward.
All I can see in your story is LUST and DRAMA... And no common sense used.
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