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writes:I'm 18 and in a relationship with the most gorgeous and sweetest boy. I met him at a friends party, he's 21. We've been going out for a few months now and everything is going great. If i'm being honest he' probably my first 'serious' boyfriend. I'm really into him and everything but the thing is, i don't trust myself when i'm out partying.When im out with friends, we always get male attention and always end up talking to a random lads of similar age. I was out new years eve (not with my boyfriend) but with girlfriends, and i got talking to a boy, he was so sweet and lovely to talk to, i was really attracted to him, he tried to make a move on me but i managed to resist temptation and tell him i had a boyfriend; my friend saw that we were getting close so she decided to move on and go to another club. Anyway later that night i bumped into him again, i was really drunk this time, and again we got talking for ages, he was really charming and complimenting me etc. So i went to kiss him, but he pulled back and reminded me of my boyfriend, we carried on talking tho, and when we were about to leave we exchanged numbers and he gave me a kiss on the cheek and said my boyfriend was really lucky to have me. I was really disappointed in myself for trying to kiss him, and if he hadn't been such a nice person and kissed me back when he knew id got a boyfriend i probably would have cheated that night! Anyway so when he text me a few days later i told him straight that i was really happy with my boyfriend and that i was sorry for 'leading' him on it was the drink, he was considerate and understood nothing more was to happen. So that was forgotten.Few weeks later i went to a house party with a group of friends, without my boyfriend. Got absolutely drunk, and was dancing with a girl i didn't know, she also had a boyfriend, after a few more drinks, she made a move on me, and we were making out all night! we are both straight though. I haven't told my boyfriend about it, do you think he would see this as cheating? even though she was a girl.How can i control myself, and stop myself from cheating because i really really don't want to mess this up, he means a lot to me, and i know i mean a lot to him. Im just not use to serious relationships, and like to go out a lot with friends and have a good time!( sorry if its long )
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reader, lovelynightmare  +, writes (18 January 2009):
 Love is measured by sacrifice.
If cheating is only a drink away, stay away from the drink. Or even the whole party scene. You should love him enough where you avoid certain triggers (even if they are enjoyable) that will set you off towards other guys.
Believe me, I've seen some really regretful and sad posters on Dear Cupid because they gave in to the temptation to cheat and now face the uphill battle of keeping their mate. Please stay out of that situation, and enjoy your wonderful boyfriend.
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reader, PunkyPippi +, writes (18 January 2009):
 I don't think you're ready for a serious relationship with anyone. You're in the prime of your life, you like attention from guys, and are very aware that there are plenty of cutie pies out there to have fun with. I would suggest you tell your boyfriend that you no longer want to date exclusively until you can figure out what you really want. Don't lie to him about the girl kiss either. You both were probably doing it for the attention it got, and most guys wouldn't consider it cheating---but tell the truth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2009): Sorry to say this but yes its cheating u kissed someone else reguardless if it was another girl. Both me n my bf go out alot but not together as i in wales at uni n hes in N.ireland. Even with drink its a frame of mind, Id never cheat cos no guy compares to my bf even when ive had to many, hes the same. Sorry He may mean alot but maybe its just not enough cos ur still looking, and experimenting.
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