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writes:dear cupidthis is not about relationships. its about my chat addiction. i got into a chatroom several years back. now i seem not to be able to get off it. i have some friends and some people i hate there. i seem to be always focused on going to the chatroom and making sure that someone i dont like is not chatting. if they are, i make sure i enter and take over. i dont really know how to explain this but im hooked to this chat. several years back i used to be there till early morning. now it has reduced but somehow i feel i have lose control. i get panic attacks when i see someone i dont like chatting there. its like i have to get in to chat as well.i feel like i have to take control of the chat room and only allow those i like to chat with me. however my close friends from chat have moved away and nolonger chat much. so its these people i dont really like. i feel alone there but i hate to see them chatting there. im getting very anxious about these and i cant sleep at night since my anxiety is worst at night .i feel like i cant do anything about this. to be honest it has been over 3years and alot of my friends have moved on with their lives. im stuck here stil thinking if anyone new would go to the chat and occupy the space and i will be left alone. PLEASE HELP ME! :(im getting really bad panic attacks
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (28 November 2013):
 Block chat room on your computer, STOP going there.
No one made you chat room Queen and gave you the "power" to decide who can talk and who can't..
You need to STOP and walk away. TRY and find a hobby and INTERACT with people in "real" life, because you would NEVER treat people face to face the way you do on chat room, I BET YOU.
Delete your accounts and block access.
You are obsessing. It might feel like it gives you some kind of control over your life, but honestly, you have no RIGHT and not control over what other people do and WHOM they chat with.
Time to LIVE life.
You live in a BEAUTIFUL place, do you work, go to school or volunteer?
If not, then it's about time isn't it? Find something that makes you happy.
Also, you might want to see a therapist, because what you are doing sounds a little like ODC (the control part and the anxiety) it will only get worse if you don't find a way to step away and get help.
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