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writes:Here is my question and issue. Why now? I just turned 40 this year and it's like my sex drive is over the top. Is this normal? I a woman who really didn't care about sex can't seem to get enough. I'm noticing different changes in my body but didn't really expect this. Do I need to go see someone or is this normal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2016): It's normal. At 40 I suddenly couldn't seem to have enough sex. It was frustrating at the least and sometimes almost painful. I sure tired my husband out for several years. Enjoy yourself.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (16 August 2016):
 It could be worth checking in with your GP. It is probably just hormones, but there is another medical condition I can think of which should be treated now. It can't hurt to check.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 August 2016):
 It happened to me after 35... at 56 it's abated somewhat but I have a higher drive than my spouse at this point and he's only 43....
i think it's totally normal and expected.
IF you are concerned contact your gyn for a yearly physical which you should be having anyway.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (16 August 2016):
 Totally normal. Enjoy it. You need not see anyone except the one you love, and hope he can keep up!!
Lot of women brim with sexuality, eroticism and libido in 40s. (Imagine how those 20 year old guys had to deal with it) what makes it great is that not only are you aroused but also mature to control it. So just relax and enjoy this great part of your life.
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (16 August 2016):
Being curious but not well informed about your situation, I turned to the internet for answers, of which there are many. Their opinions and findings cover 360 degrees as to female sex drive at varying ages. The best article I found was in the The Guardian (link is below). It contains a large number of comments, organized by age groups. Based on everything I read, there is no normal, which means that you are normal.
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/mar/25/aging-female-sex-drive-looks-like
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 August 2016):
 I think it's normal to a point. Women peak much much later than men. I would say from a biological standpoint... your body is trying to wring out any and all potential for an offspring and believe it or not... ENJOY sex.
While the most fertile period in a woman's life is 15-26 - genetically speaking enjoyment isn't NEEDED to produce off spring. (for women)
After 26 (studies show) women are more likely to focus on enjoyment.
Some studies also reveal that women in their 30's and 40's are MUCH more comfortable with sex and their own bodies. AND (again speaking from a biology standpoint) women were "done" raising their offspring by then.
So I think it's very normal. Unless it gets on the way of your daily life, I'd just enjoy it.
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