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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Okay so I have a friend who I had been friends with for over a decade and we fell apart over a serious issue some time ago. I love her though she's the only person I care about (platonically) the way that I do. Now she had this boyfriend who treated her horrible and was a real jerk. But over the course of their relationship we became friends (him and I). He talked to me about how he didn't really want to be in their relationship etc. So after we (my friend and I) fell apart, myself and her boyfriend were still friends but there was something there. We started hanging around each other more and more and began having feelings for each other, that we never capitalized on because he was still with her. About a week after we admitted our feelings to each other (even admitted we had fallen for each other) he approached me and said that they had broken up and that they were through. He said he was happy about this because he wanted to be with me because I was truly what he wanted. 2 days later he cheated on me with a underage girl and a random girl while completely drunk at a party. I told him I didn't want to tlak to him nemore. A day or so later he shows up at the friends house I'm at telling me how he understands that we can't be together but he would just like to have me be his friend. Just so I could somewhat be in his life. I agreed but 2 days later it turned into us getting back together. Over this time we were sexually active with each other. All of a sudden he stopped calling and texting and answering mine. I was in a really sad place so I called my x-friend to say I missed her and wanted to talk. Come to find out, they never broke up. She's pregnant and everything. I found out he was playing us both and she had no idea. He was lying to me about a lot of stuff involving her and it broke my heart. The crazy part is.......she has no clue. What do I do? Do I tell her and risk losing her as a friend but saving her from the bastard that cheated on her multiple times and was treating her horrible?Or do I just let it go and just hope it all works itself out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2009): Save your friend even though you may lose her. She may not even believe you. I just happen to think that the worst thing to do, is "nothing".
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