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writes:Well, the good news is that I'll be graduating within in 4 or so weeks. The bad news is that my luck with girls wasn't really good...It doesn't matter, I'm still young. Had a crush my senior year in high school. We would sit at lunch together, and see each other in the halls. I really liked her, and I kind of felt she liked me; however, I made no advancements. She eventually graduated early, and that was the last I saw her.It's been nearly 4 years since then. I came into contact recently on Facebook with her. I'll be returning back home, so I can continue some job searching. This means I'll could try to catch up with her.Back in the Fall I tried to make plans with her to meet up, but she had resumed classes when I was on break; she was busy. However, she did say we could catch up in the winter. Unfortunately, we haven't talked since then. I still have some residual feelings for her, and dreams of her come and go. I kind of want to redeem myself with this regret that I had carried not revealing that I liked her. Hopefully, I can meet up with her when I return home and catch up with her. It's been four years, and I'm sure we've changed. Who knows where my feelings lie for her? For the time being, she'll be like a friend I haven't seen in a long time. Still, I want to tell her somehow. Any advice or suggestions I could slip in that I had liked her back in high school without it being really awkward?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 November 2010):
 Ok first off dont expect to much to come from this, because you dont want to be let down. Am sure you both have changed as people, we all do change when we go to college we become more independant and we grow in to adults.
Just ask her via facebook if she is willing to catch up with you when you return home. Just keep it light hearted tell her you would like to meet her for a drink for old time sakes and see what she done with her life. If she agrees then name a time and place and meet her.
Off course you will be nervous but just treat her like you would treat a platonic friend you haven saw in four years ask her all the obvious questions you would ask then if you are both comfortable enough with each other, then maybe you could mention that you had a crush on her four years ago and see how her reaction is, laugh it off if you need to. Or maybe say it light hearted like 'oh would you believe i had a crush on you all those years ago' dont make it a huge deal.
Just take things slowly and try to get her to be a friend for a while until you both get to know each other more. goodluck.
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