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writes:I'm frustrated about my boyfriend and his friends (and maybe his parents too for spoiling him). Maybe someone has a similar experience to share, or advce to give me? My boyfriend got a car from his parents that his parents are paying for. It's in his parents name, they pay insurance, repairs etc. He just gets to drive it. I've encouraged him to actually make the car HIS, it's insane in my world for a grown man to let his parents pay for a car. He says he is going to start paying for it, but it has been a year already.Now, one of his friends (lets call the friend B) decided to get his drivers license recently, and B said himself it was because now he could drive my boyfriends car! Just like it was a given that my bf's car was his car too! B doesn't have a parking space, so whenever B borrows it he parks illegal. My boyfriend is starting up studies this fall and wont need the car, and was supposed to leave the car with his family. Surprise surprise.. B decided he wanted to drive the car while my bf is at school. So, now the car is supposed to be in B's hands, parked illegal outside of B's place. I know it's not MY car.. and it is my bf's parents who really should deal with this. But it irks me. Maybe because it's just so irresponsible, and I feel B is just using my bf to be honest. I tried to talk to my boyfriend about it, and his reply was "Are you upset because I use my car differently than you use yours?". I don't know if it's even that, or if it's just because his friends aren't really good friends when they take advantage of him like that. Or because in my ears this is a crap idea and just irresponsible. Thoughts? Reply to this Question
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reader, Mr. Don T Knowitall  +, writes (14 August 2012):
that is a very strange situation. obviously your boyfriend doesn't have a stake in this vehicle because if he did he would be more careful about who gets to use it. he acts like they're borrowing the lawn mower, yeah sure just bring it back when you're done.
you have two choices. 1. tell his parents, 2. do nothing. he doesn't have a problem with the situation, friend B is all in favour, but the parents might care who is driving the car they are paying for. especially if parking tickets start racking up or the car gets impounded or is involved in an accident. then it will come down on your bf. And, if you go to his parents and they confront him then he will feel betrayed by you. if you don't want to rat him out then you'll have to try and forget about it. however, what if something happens to the car and the parents ask you if you knew about it? would you lie to them? who would you rather have angry at you, your bf or his parents? who do you respect more?
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