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writes: Help! I think I'm Obsessed!I have this thing, I can't get over my ex's girlfriend. I need help. It's been years and years. I can't work out what it is. He never even really loved her, but I can't stop thinking about her and trying to compete with her. She was really mean to me, when I first started dating my partner so many years ago. But I drive past her house and work, I always try and find out what she's doing. She has moved on and has a boyfriend and he pays for everything. I even tried being her friend, but she isn't very nice to me and shut me down. She has a great job and she doesn't deserve one. People have always told me that I am prettier and so much nicer than her and it's still not enough to make me feel good. I know I don't have much self confidence at all. Maybe if I were busier I wouldn't think of her. Why am I obsessing over her, and I'm not bi or anything.....Please help me someone!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): I have a problem simular to that i have a boyfriend name wade and i think he likes his ex haley bush im kinda jelous of her but i just keep telling my self im with wade now and shes not so what should i be worried about!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): dont worry if your much nicer then your way better just be yourself and dont worry because if shes mean to you shes probly just jealous. love elaina
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reader, Jilly06 +, writes (20 June 2006):
Iam having this problem with my boyfriend. I have asked my friends if they think his ex is prettier than me, i have even asked my boyfriend. And he said i am way prettier and im like his friend aswell as his galfriend. He said he never had that with her and that she was hard work.
But even if its true what he says there something about her i feel competitive about. I am trying my hardest to get over this trusting issue i have. But my Mum ran away when i was younger and i find it hard. As the one person your ment to trust in this world is your mum and if you can't trust her then who can you trust.
I f i was you think of it like this at then end of the day they split up and now he's with you and he wouldn't be with you if he wanted her.
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reader, Jilly06 +, writes (20 June 2006):
Iam having this problem with my boyfriend. I have asked my friends if they think his ex is prettier than me, i have even asked my boyfriend. And he said i am way prettier and im like his friend aswell as his galfriend. He said he never had that with her and that she was hard work.But even if its true what he says there something about her i feel competitive about. I am trying my hardest to get over this trusting issue i have. But my Mum ran away when i was younger and i find it hard. As the one person your ment to trust in this world is your mum and if you can't trust her then who can you trust.I f i was you think of it like this at then end of the day they split up and now he's with you and he wouldn't be with you if he wanted her.
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reader, sibaan +, writes (20 June 2006):
 you are obviously insecure about your relationship with your partner if your obsessing over his ex..... he obviously loves you not her other wise he would be with her....
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reader, Smiler +, writes (20 June 2006):
 Well sweetie
This is a tough one... firstly your not obsessive, so calm down yeah i think your so caught up with her because your self esteem and confidence at the moment is at an all time low you poor thing :o( thats not a nice place to be and hardly helps when you can't seem to move on and gain closure from his ex i feel thats all you need to do gain that closure your seeking forget driving past her house and work she must be really enjoying the fact that your still caught up in her break up even though she has moved on and got someone else.. sweetie you need to forget this dozy bint! she sounds a nasty piece of work anyhow, not worthy of your friendship u know. your on the right lines when you say keep busy don't think about her lifes to short concentrate on your life and your man u need to build your self confidence and there are lots of ways to do this but by far the simplist is every day look yourself in the mirror and give yourslef a compliment tell yourself how good you look or what you like about yourself do this everyday without fail untill you start to believe it inside you said yourself ur man never loved her anyhow so why would you wanna compete with her... start to love you and the person you are get wrapped up in things that are all about you and him forget her move on babe she just ain't worth it :o)
I hope my advice was able to help you out with your situation babe and good luck with this... if you ever need a friend or a chat or just more advice don't hesitate to email me sweetie, I would love to hear from you again and know how you got on... Remember i'm always here for you anytime ok
You Take Care Sweetie X
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