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writes: Hi, I'm in a bit of trouble. I literally cannot stop thinking about this girl I fancy and it's annoying the hell outta me. She's a good mate of mine but I don't want to ruin our friendship if I tell her how I really feel. Recently a situation cropped up to make my situation even more uncomfortable - as a freind she told me that she fancied another guy (obviously completely clueless of my feelings towards her). This other guy is actually a friend of mine (not a particularly close one, but a mate nevertheless). I don't know how he feels towards her (hopefuly he has no interest!). They barely knew each other at all a few weeks ago, but have talked quite a bit since then. I'm hopiing it's not gunna work out between them, so I can tell her how I feel, but I don't think I could possibly say anything before then.But if, say I were to lose any chance with her to my mate i would be insanely depressed. This is because so far in my life my 'relationships' with women have been a joke - nothing serious, just a couple of lustful incidents to be honest. Whereas now I feel a hell of a lot stronger connection and pull towards this girl that I've never felt before.We go to sixth form together (year 13) and I really want something meaningful to happen between us before we go to university and gap years next year.Any advice would be great!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2006): I disagree I recently had my heart broken when I admited my feeling for a women I have been in love with are whole friendship.I told her through a phone call and now everytime I see her she avoids me like the plague I knew she had feelings for me but theres something that was stopping her feelings from comming out.She was a very shy girl and now I wished that I would of waited a little longer because about 2 weeks ago she died from cancer.She knew she had cancer all along but she did not want to hurt anyone so she kept it a secret (as her sister later told me)now I wish that I would of just remained friends with her so that I could of spent the last days of her life with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2006): how many m8's do you need to use scarfaces19? chill bro
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reader, bellachic385 +, writes (1 November 2006):
 Well this is a though one. She means a lot and you don;t want to lose what you have but you arn't happy about that one either. Before you do anything go for a run and clear your head. Then tell her how you feel, if she cares about you as just a friend she might just joke about it but if it is more like you hope than she will tell you. Good Luck.
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reader, scarfaces19 +, writes (1 November 2006):
if u really like her m8 then go ahead and tell her
cuz she might really like u 2 and 2 shy 2 say it 2 u and girls love it wen the boys make the first move.
so if i was u i wud go for it, cuz she might fancie that other kid and u m8, and the other kid might just want 2 be m8s wiv her thats it.
ive been in ur situation b4 m8 and it worked out that she was 2 shy 2 say anythink 2 me and her m8s.
it didnt work out between me and her cuz she had 2 move so i lost contact with her and now i regret leaving it a while b4 i sed anythink. do it whilst u can m8.
if shes a gd m8 then it shudnt ruin ur friendship m8, ive been in so mant situations like this and told them ive really liked them and then it didnt ruin our friendship so it shudnt ruin urs m8
best way farward is 2 tell her ur feelings m8
i hope this helps u
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