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writes: Dear Cupid, I've had a hopeless crush on this guy for a little over a year now (not counting the two or three times I thought I was over him and went in pursuit of another Prince Charming). We used to be friends, and he used to flirt with me, like, all the time. But now, everything's different. It's like he's just forgotten everything; like he doesn't even know me anymore. I've started telling myself that he doesn't want to be a part of my life and does not want ME to be a part of HIS life, therefore I don't really NEED him in my life. I kept on telling myself this throughout the day, and I really felt like I was confident enough to let go of him. Then, I saw him after school, and I just couldn't go through with it. My friends all say that I should just let him go after the way he's treated me (he's called me things like "b-i-t-c-h" and "stalker"...even though I SOOO do not stalk him) and that I deserve, like, SOOO much better, but it's not as easy as they think it is. I admit that he's like, the biggest jackass in the world, but that still doesn't change what he did for me. He was the first boy (outside of my family) to ever really show me love. He never actually MEANT any of the things he said/did, but when I was with him, I felt loved notheless. I know that my friends are right, but I just can't let go of the love that I feel for him. My mind says, "Let go," but my heart says, "Hold on." What should I do?Sarah
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2006): Hello Sarah I can sympathize with you. I am in the same situation with a guy also. I Know it's extremely hard to get over your crush. My advice for you would to be to just cool it with him for a while and love yourself first. You deserve so much better than that. I know it's difficult right now but you will thank yourself in the long run. You said he has called you a bitch and a stalker. If a guy can disrespect you like that he is not worth your time. There are plenty of other guys out here that can appreciate you and respect you. I hope this helped. Good Luck to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2006): Well just want to tell you that you will move on sooner or later am still goign threw what ur going threw i liked this boy for 4 years and i went out with him for like 2 weeks but just try to find another guy and even though you wanna go back with him dont abd flirt with other guys
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reader, Yos  +, writes (5 May 2006):
 Listen to your friends. This guy sounds like bad news and you should do your best to get him out of your head. Even if you do finally hook up with him its almost guaranteed he'll just take what he wants and then leave you again when he feels like it. You'll almost certainly never get what you want out of him, ie a good relationship.
You should ask yourself a serious question: why are you falling for 'the biggest jackass in the World'?. That's not a good thing. Without knowing you its hard to say, but the most common reason girls do this is through insecurity. Either because you feel you don't deserve better, or because he showed you affection and you don't feel confident you'll get it from someone else. If this is the case with you (and it might not be) then you should focus on yourself. There will be great guys out there who will be able to show you love and yet are cool and caring, not complete jackasses. Keep your eyes open for a guy like this and steer clear of the idiot guys who are trying to get in between them and you. Having high standards for the men you date is really really worth it in the long run.
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (4 May 2006):
 Hi Sarah
This guy showed you affection and your first love and that is never easy to let go of for anyone.
But on the down side he has called you bitch and stalker, you really do deserve better than someone who can disrespect in such a way. Is it the bad boy image that attracts you?
You sound as though you are still young and unfortunately because he was the first boy to show interest in you outside of your family that is where the fixation is and not the fact that he is a decent guy as he's not.
You need to get out more and meet more boys - I don't mean go for anything in trousers but you get my idea.
Keep telling yourself about the way in which he has treated you and the names he has called you. By repeating it to yourself you will then appreciate the guys who are nice to you as I am sure there are plenty out there who would not treat you in such a disgusting way.
When even your friends are telling you to let go, listen to them, they are not your friends for nothing as you must trust them a great deal and good friends don't steer you wrong.
Keep listening to your head right now as your heart is the confused one and you do deserve someone who is going to treat you like a princess not a rogue who is out for all he can get and dismisses you so easily.
You are a beautiful young girl and now all you need to do is to believe it and the confidence will shine out from you and then the guy of your dreams will show up, believe me.
BFN
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