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writes: I have know a man for almost 3 years and he is in love with me. He would treat my daughter and I very well and we can talk about anything. The problem: I can't seem to imagine us being intimate. What should I do? Just be friends with him or try to get closer and see what happens? Reply to this Question
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reader, shania  +, writes (22 April 2006):
 Maybe you are a bit scared and unsure because he has been your friend for 3 years and thats all you have seen him as.If you are attracted to him then i think its worth taking the chance.He sounds like a wonderful bloke and it is your insecurities that are stopping you from moving on.Why dont you just take things nice and slowly....just hold his hand for starters,you dont have to have a full sexual relationship with him...if you dont want to....im sure this fella would be very patient with you.In time once you start dating as a proper couple,you will know whether to take the next step,otherwise if you dont take the chance...you could be kicking yourself in a years time,wondering why you didn't take the opportunity when you had the chance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe thing is I am attracted to him but not so sure on the intimate part. I get all scared and shy and I freeze. He says I'm not giving him a chance. He is a wonderful guy with a big heart. I had a rocky marriage and I'm not sure whether that has something to do with not being able to commit to him. I've dated a variety of men and haven't had a problem with the thought of sex before. Why would this guy be different.
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reader, shania +, writes (22 April 2006):
I wouldn't start a relationship with him,just for the sake of it,ok he treats your daughter very well and he has told you that he loves you,But if you are not attracted to him and just dont see him as boyfriend material then you might regret ever starting it in the 1st place.Saying that though,if you started seeing him as more then a friend,like going out on your own for a meal and see if there could be a spark there...then go for it.Remember though,there is two ways of looking at this....1)You could do a lot worse,and he might end up as your true soulmate or...2)You start an intimate relationship...find out that it didn't work and lose a good friend in the process.Only you can make that decision....good luck.
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