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writes:Alright, when I was 14 years old I dated a guy for 8 months and not too much happened. We were very close, but one day he broke up with me because he said he had feelings for another girl. He still wanted to remain friends with me, or at least "take a break" from our relationship. I couldn't handle being friends with him after the relationship, so we stopped talking for the most part. Our relationship began when we high school freshmen and we didn't speak very much throughout sophomore and junior year. Then senior year of high school rolled around and we began speaking again and becoming friends. Somehow, our friendship grew and now I can easily call us best friends. I was terrified regaining our friendship since I knew I may risk regaining romantic feelings for him. Yes, that did happen. It seems that we have both regained feelings for one another and I contemplate whether or not trying our relationship again is a good idea. Am I a fool for wanting to be with someone who dumped me for someone else 4 years ago? Our friendship is amazing. We talk almost everyday and can tell each other anything. There have been a lot of times we almost kissed, but I am afraid to risk our friendship and I am afraid that overall this isn't good for me. Should a forget what happened 4 years ago and give it another try? I really do care about him and would like to be in a relationship, but I don't know if it truly is a good idea.
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (18 June 2008):
 Hm, in most cases, young guys pull that kind of crap often, but there is a good chance he learned from it. I cant say wether it is a good idea or not, but I say a few things that mightput your dilema in perspective: If you love him, let him go, if he comes back, it was meant to be. On the other side, however, you friendship seems very solid and beautiful, and we all know a failed relationship can ruin it. It seems like you enjoy having him in your life. Isnt it funny how time can just heal even the deepest of wounds? Even though he hurt you 4 years ago, he is still important to you. I think you are a wise person to be protective of yourself. If you do decide to rebuild a relationship with him, let him know that you dont want to waste your time and friendship with him for a relationship that he cant commit to. Tell him you have strong feelings for him and want you both to be happy, either way. He should respect you for it. Good luck!!!
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