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writes: I cheated on my boyfriend, do I tell him?I have been in a relationship for 2 years with an adorable guy who I love to bits. I got quite drunk one weekend and ended up in bed with a guy in the army, we did everything apart from sex. It meant nothing to me and I think he felt the same. I also know that being drunk is not an excuse for anything. I can't believe I betrayed my boyfriend and I can't seem to stop beating myself up menatlly, I feel so guilty.I managed to slip into conversation with my boyfriend about cheaters, he despises it as he say's trust and love in a relationship are both very important to him. Do I tell him and risk losing the one person I've spent so long finding or do I sweep it all under the carpet and hope this guilt passes? I know for certain that something like this will never happen again.Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2005): i am exactly in the same situation. I have with my boyfriend for nearly two years, and I really love him. He is so amazing, I cant believe that he's with me.
Last night, I went out and saw a guy i kissed 3 years ago. He was really trying to convince me to leave my boyfriend for him. At first I said no, but after I got home, I decided to talk to this guy and invited him over. I swear, it was not my intention to do anything with him at all, but he was so persistent, and we ended up having sex.
Today is the morning after, and I haven't been able to stop crying. I don't want to leave the house, and I can't face looking at myself in the mirror. My boyfriend is such a gentleman, and I dont know what possessed me to disrespest him like this.
I know without a ashadow of a doubt that i will never ever do this again.
My boyfriend also shares similar views on cheating as your boyfriend, so I couldn't possibly tell him because he'd hate me, especially as Ive been cheated on before.
I have no excuses for what Ive done, and I just hope that I can eventually stop beating myself up about it too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2005): If you're sure it'll never happen again, and can put it to the back of you mind forever, then my advice would be don't say anything.If you tell him, he'll never be able to trust you again. If possible take some reassurance from the fact that you know now that you will never be tempted again, because you've got it out of your system.I would suggest that this all happened because you were not 100% happy in the relationship. Ask yourself why it happened before making the decision.Doc Lorenzo
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