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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:We have been dating a year now and have always had sexual problems. First he always kind of laid there and did nothing, he said it was because he didn't want me to feel uncomfortable. Second, he never touched me or initiated anything with me, he said we initiate together. Third he hardly ever gets aroused. I don't mind not having sex or sexual activities all the time, but it really makes me feel unattractive to him when he gets an in between hard on, half soft - half hard. He said he used to masturbate to the thought of me before we dated, and yes he stopped watching porn too. But he still cant get fully hard it seems. I'm his first gf, the first girl he has been with. I just don't know what's wrong, what can I do to help? I try a LOT of stuff to help him.Could I be unattractive to him now? Did he lose interest in my body? He super wants to stay together and he has spoken about marriage, but not being able to turn him on really makes me feel unattractive.
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reader, Garbo  +, writes (26 June 2015):
 Be sure he doesn't masturbate, no porn and cut down on fantasizing. Get him to work out in the gym. Then try supplements that cause arousal in men: arginine, yohimbine, tribulus terrestris.
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reader, Kendle +, writes (26 June 2015):
 I don't think it's you honey. I think he would have this problem with whoever he was with. It may be to do with blood circulation or a psychological barrier because he feels pressure to get hard. A LOT of guys, when they first start having sex struggle to get hard because they are nervous or feeling pressure to perform. This usually goes as they start to feel more comfortable with their partner. However, if he feels that each time he doesn't get hard, your feelings are getting hurt, then it's likely he will continue to feel under pressure to perform which will make the situation worse.
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