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writes: i have a problem...Ive been with my boyfriend for around a year now, were really happy together and i love him to bits, but ive never in my life been able to cum, i love having sex with him, i dont fell like he is doing anything wrong, i get all the build up but ive never cum, when on my own using a vibrator i always cum.please help me. is there anything i can do to make it happen, my boyfriend doesnt know that i have this problem.thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2005): HiAlot of females are unable to cum during penatrative sex, ive only managed it a couple of times and then it pretty much takes me by suprise when it happens.You dont say whether you are trying to cum when he is inside you aro during foreplay, if its both, then im wondering perhaps are you focusing and concentrating too much on actually coming, to a point where your not relaxing when you are with your guy.This is obviously worrying you, which will perhaps leave you feeling a little stressed. You obviously have the ability to orgasm as you have done while using a vibrator.Perhaps...try not to think about coming aand really relax and enjoy the attention that your boyfriend is giving you, dont put so much emphasis on want ting to cum, and you will find that once you are relaxing it will probably just happen.I used to worry sometimes that maybe i was taking too long to come and that my partner was getting fed up with doing it, but didnt want to stop until i had cum, that put extra pressure on me and stopped me from coming cuz i was trying to hard. If that makes sense, i know its my own personal experience, but its just a thought, wonder if that might be the problem for you.As it turned out, my partner had no problem with how long it took it was all in my mind.So relax and enjoy
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