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writes:hiOk well i go out with this amazing boy he means the world to me, and i truly love him and he said he felt the same.We see each other every day at school and we meet at speedway every Thursday.Recently he's been acting really depressed and unhappy and he started avoiding me and not replying to my texts and just generally not talking to me, so i new something was on his mind and worrying him but i didn't have a clue what it was. Then eventually on Wednesday i text him again (after not texting him for a few days) and he replied, he asked me if i was going to speedway because he wanted to meet because he needed to tell me something, i said couldn't he just text it but he said no he needs to talk to me face to face. Well when a boy says that it normally means bad news and they are going to dump you. I kept asking him questions about this thing he needed to tell me but he wouldn't tell.He then said "look i don't know what i'm saying at the moment i need to think i'll ring you tomorrow" so i replied "ok".So we met at speedway and he was still acting a bit weird. I kept saying are you going to tell me or will i have to guess? and he kept changing the subject. He said he didn't want to tell me because he didn't want it to effect me and him and he was scared how I'd react.Now before he went out with me he went out with my best friend and they truly loved each other but they both swore to me they didn't have feelings for each other any more and they have both moved on she has a new bf and he goes out with me.I was trying to guess this thing all night because he said if i guessed it right he would tell me.I said "is it to do with you and my best friend?" He said "I'm not answering that" I said "It is isn't it!" I then went on to say "If it's about my best friend i deserve to know!" Then before I finished my sentence he blurted out "I STILL LOVE HER!" I went quiet and just stared at the ground. He swore to me he loved me aswell but he just can't stop loving my best friend. I don't know what to do i'm so upset.What should i do? Can you love two people at once?please helpxxx
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reader, kizzy  +, writes (17 April 2008):
 yes this guy is totally confused he is in a state right now of who he wants to choose. During this time sweetie it may be hard but just give him space leave him alone,in piece so he can sort things out but wait till he decides. Move on for a little while you being young and all im sure you are going to find lots of dudes who'll you will supposedly fall in love with. bcuz you know what they say " if you love something let him go but he comes back thats how you'll know".GOODLUCK!!!!
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reader, indie girl +, writes (11 April 2008):
I think you need to set him straight, it is possible to love two people at the same time but this is not fair on you. Give him the option... "me or her" and keep to it don't change it. Tell him that it's one or the other and that if he chooses you that he is to stay away/not have any contact what so ever with your best mate. You don't deserve to be treated like this, and i know it's hard but if it doesn't work out then it's for the best. Please don't let him mess with your heart, i've had it done to me. Letting him play with your emotions is just like self harm, it's not healthy. Hope this helps, and i hope you work things out. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): At least he has been honest. He sounds either scared of you, or scared of hurting you. If he still loves her and has avoided your texts then it sounds like you would be better off with someone else.
Some people would say it is possible to love two people at once, and maybe you will get some insight from the other replies to your question and weigh it all up.
To me, this boy just sounds confused, and until he makes his mind up it might be better to just leave it.
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