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writes:Hi, I am a 25 year old female who recently met a 38 yr old guy while drunk at a party....we ended up talking for about 20 minutes then making out and I wound up performing oral sex on him...Not something that would usually happen, but I was drunk AND my ex boyfriend had been texting me mean things all night so maybe I was subconciously on the prowl, lol.Anyway, I thought it would be a one night thing since he lives about 4 hours away so I just chalked it up as an embarrasing one night stand kind of thing, but he got my number and we have been texting and talking on the phone for a couple weeks now and he actually seems like a really cool guy. He's been asking to take me out, but also sends me sexual text messages. I'm interested in this guy, and I haven't had sex in SO LONG so I know I'll want to :-/Is there a way I can have sex with him on the first date and not look like just a slut that is only good for sex? Should I wait? Or do I already look like such a "slut" from our first encounter that he's already past looking at me as any sort of girlfriend material?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): The best thing you have to do is just exercise patience because you don't know what the guy is up-to. Having sex with him on the first date is not wise if i am to judge. Allow him to off-load his stuff first before you take the next step of whether to have sex with him or not.
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reader, jodie-alice-x  +, writes (5 August 2010):
 First date sex isn't exactly classy and you could just be being used.
Second date sex also isn't very classy and you could still be being used.
Third date sex is perfect opportunity because he's obviously interested enough in you to ask you out on three different occasions.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (5 August 2010):
 It's impossible to say exactly how this guy's mind works, so any response we can give will be speculative at best.
I'll have to say though that the odds favour him expecting sex. Why don't you try holding out till the third date? Unless of course you want to be used for sex :) That's not neccessarily SUCH a bad thing.
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