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writes:Hey I need help me and my girl broke up were together like a year...we were in love love or so I thought:( she seems fine though and I'm heartbroken:'( like for real guys I know everyone's been hurt including me but I've been depressed since the break up (3 days) have cried non stop pretty much I can't sleep I can't eat I feel physical pain I feel like I've lost my value as a man...this is something so much more....can I die of heart break? Is drugs a good way to try n forget?? what can I do I text her and she don't reply and I know I'm coming off as some loser obsessed guy but I'm really not I'm an upstanding man a single father hard worker looks charisma and sense of humor but this has me beat :'(
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (31 March 2013):
Now, don't take this the wrong way. But you're not the only person that's ever been broken up with and not the only person that has ever felt this way. You're not going to die! She's ignoring you because she's trying to get over you. You should do the same.
Don't do drugs and don't drink--they will only depress you further. DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT call/text her anymore. That will also continue to make you feel worse because she won't respond. This all takes time. It's only been 3-days. Take it day-by-day, eventually the pain will go away even though if doesn't feel like it ever will now.
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reader, Abella +, writes (31 March 2013):
 three days is the start of your grieving process. And that is what you are facing and suffering ,right now, GRIEF.
you are in shock at your loss, you don't even want to believe it is happening. When you accept that you CAN overcome this cruel blow, then you will be starting on the road to recovery. At that point you may even feel some outrage that she could do this to you. But that is still just the start of the grief process. You will grow stronger by the time you reach the acceptance stage.
Losing anyone or losing anything we did not want to lose is not nice. It is devastating.
But Drugs are NEVER the answer.
If counselling seems out of your reach or too expensive then there are other options.
First you might want to talk to others who have suffered and survived in one of the online Grief forums - I list one below:
http://forums.grieving.com/
And it might help you if you have some understanding of the stages of gried. That way you will know how well you are progressing as you work through the stages of grief.
Let no one try to tell you how long is "too long" to be grieving. It is YOU who is grieving and not them. Allow yourself time to recover. You WILL RECOVER, believe me.
http://www.recover-from-grief.com/7-stages-of-grief.html
But if you feel yourself sink into sadness then do consider the talk line listed below.:
1-800-273-8255 – FREE talk line when you are hurting
They can help you with trained online counsellors and it is FREE.
My good wishes to you
Abella
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2013): My ex boyfriend did that to me! And it was heartless.
You're under her spell, you deserve so much better.
I thought I was going to die, and no, drugs aren't the answer. I was emotionally destroyed and devastated when my then-boyfriend cheated on me on Christmas Day with the town slut and then abandoned me the next day... he was a selfish pig. I met someone better after all that drama.
I ohpe you meet someone soon :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2013): no you cant die. no drugs are not the answer. You have to ride out the storm and move on my friend. Youll feel better in time :-) weve all been there I promise.
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