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writes:Hi I have had bad luck in love for a long time. I just started recently hanging out with this guy and he's really nice but I only see him as a friend. Anyway I think he likes me he always buys me stuff and I try and tell him not to but he does anyways. He would be a great boyfriend it's just I am not sexually attracted to him. I know that sounds bad of me. He is the nicest guy I ever met and I know would be a good boyfriend, I try to look at him in another way as attractive but I just can't. What's wrong with me! I'm a terrible person he is perfect for me! Is it possible to date some one you are not attracted to and over time find them attractive? Please if anyone's gone through this i'll take any advice. Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): yes!... you can! once you you meet him the very first time, your communications begins to change. before you realize your self you are already in love.
and if para-venture the person offers you some good items,
your motions begins to develop..................
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): All i can say is from my recent experience.i met a guy through the internet but his profile only had one picture on it...not ugly i thought but no Johnny Depp!(how shallow)As it turned out he used to go to school with my older brother..we started sending messages to each other and before i knew it we were "talking" for hours on the computer.He made me laugh and i loved every minute we were in contact.i would gaze at the pc wondering when he would be online!! after a few weeks we agreed to meet face to face. my friend commented that morning how happy and bubbly i looked i couldnt stop talking about him!! when we met i really enjoyed his company but still wasnt bowled over by his looks. even though he was very smartly dressed he was "bigger" than i thought (again how shallow) and i couldnt give him anything more than a peck on the cheek when we said goodnite( btw he hadnt pushed for anything more we had spent the entire evening talking). however i enjoyed his company so much i hadnt had an evening like that in years( im recently divorced from a man who did what he wanted all the time)...i wanted to spend more time together. we have been seeing each other now for nearly 3 months and are totally in love..the looks havent changed . what has is my perception and deciding what (for me) matters the most,my previous husband was good looking in my eyes but a complete ar****le. my Boyfriend is the most wonderful caring considerate man ive ever known and when i look in his eyes i see the love that he feels for me and the reflection of the love i have for him...that to me is what makes a man gorgeous. good luck with the choices you make xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): All i can say is from my recent experience.i met a guy through the internet but his profile only had one picture on it...not ugly i thought(how shallow)..we started sending messages to each other and before i knew it we were "talking" for hours on the computer.He made me laugh and i loved every minute we were in contact.i would gaze at the pc wondering when he would be online!!
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reader, Cowboy254 +, writes (11 March 2009):
Well it sounds like he likes you alot but eventually you will probably get used to the face and in my opinion god gave you whatever he gave you and you can't control the way you look but give him a shot seems like he likes you and maybe he'll grow on you good luck
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (11 March 2009):
 Sexual attraction is a huge part of having a working, intimate relationship. Don't feel guilty. Just because he would make a great BF doesn't mean he would be great for you.
Maybe back off of him for a little bit and get some space, but continue the friendship. Just don't lead him on, and always be up front with him about how you feel. It's best that way.
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