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writes:I have been out of town for some time now, and all was well with me and my girl until the last couple of days, right before im due to be back. Before now we talked on the phone every night and it was all good...we were happy. But the last couple of days she hasn't returned my calls, or called me on the days she promised too so I finally get up with her, and I'm already a little upset. And I ask the question that had started running through my head. "Have you been with anyone else" Well her answer was no, but she had kissed a guy, but told him it felt uncomfortable and she didn't want to do it. At first this was a relief, and I was like okay. Well at least she's faithful about it. But after pondering it all night, the question came up "Can you be kissed without returning the favor?" And that's where I find myself stumped. I don't know if I should trust her or not. I don't know who to be mad at, all I know is I am filled with sadness and a bit of anger.The part that really got me is she hadn't planned on telling me, until I asked. Reply to this Question
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reader, Midge  +, writes (24 July 2007):
 Good luck! Let us know how you get on!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the responses. Things are still up in the air, as this argument has brought us unto other ones. I want to forgive her, but everytime I start too...something else comes up. But wish me the best of luck?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2007): yes i think you can. she probably didn't tell you because it would hurt or annoy you- i definately think you can trust her.
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reader, Midge +, writes (18 July 2007):
Okay, you are in a slight predicament in that I do believe you can be kissed without returning the favour, however she was honest enough about telling you this, only because she asked you. Most people would deny it!
She could well have been kissed and not returned the favour, but how did she get into that situation in the first place? Did she let this person kiss her or not?
If she let this person kiss her, then is she really into you enough that she is prepared to be faithfull to you?
If this person kissed her without her concent, then her not telling you is probably her way of not wanting to alarm you. I know I wouldnt want to alarm my boyfriend if I was in that situation.
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