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writes:is it possible to remain friends with a close friend i had sex with?we used to fancy each other but nothing happened.and we turned into close friends, but ive always liked him and he knew about it towards to the end because i told him but he had a girlfriend at the time, and after he didnt say anything or make a move on me.We had sex like 3 weeks ago, we was pretty drunk.i lost my virgnity to himm, so obvisley my feelinsg are even stronger now.we sorted it all out, and he doesnt want to give a reltionship a try becuase he sees me too much as a friend , fair enough.i told him i need some time and space and in the future i hope we can start talking again when i find things easier or im with somone else. and hes like 'yeah deffintley'we havent spoke for like 2 weeks, feels like forever. il probably see him around town and il speak to him, but he isnt on my msn and social networks as its to hard i dont want to see if he has a new girlfriend in is name. it would actaully kill me.Do you think he will understand if i carry on not being in contact for a few months, and how can i keep it so we are friends but just having space, i dont want him to hate me or think i just dont wanna be friends anymore? hes my first and i stil want to atleast be friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2009): ok, i am not judging you, but personally i wuld have waited for someone who would be my bf, for the sole rason that i know tht my felings woudl be stringer after sex, especially if the guy would be my first time. also, i wouldve waited some time for it, because you know more than me that english lads LOVE jumping rom relationship to relationship and are onl interested in sex (although there are a few exceptions)now, yu want sace but remain friends with him why? he obvisouly sounds like he had what he wanted from you and just wants to leave you there.i dont think you should be freinds with him at all.and i bet he is not worrying about your freindship with him as you are.if you were drunk then he would not want anything with you now, or in the future (unless you give yourslef away to him)so i think you should deffo not see him, and start dating someone who cares about you for real..
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