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writes: After a bad end to a bad relationship which resulted in our son being born - he's nearly three. My ex and I have begun getting on really well. We spent two lovely weekends together and inevitably slept together. We have so much history not all good, do you think there is any hope for us? I find myself jealous when he's out with other women and I am attracted to him. Can we move on from all the hurt in the past? If you think we can what do you suggest we do? Please help.
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (31 May 2006):
 Theres always a possiblity to everything and anything. It just depends on how badly both of you want this to work this time. Its pretty obvious that you do want to give it another go, but do bear in mind, it takes two to tango! Only he knows what he wants. The risk is always there that things might not go smoothly, and let me be real honest with you, in your case, the risk is higher as you guys were partners before. As they say, theres a reason why ex-es are ex-es. Then again, Im assuming you and him dont currently have other people in your lives right now, so I say why not?! Sometimes life is too short to contemplate about the ifs and buts. If you feel its the right thing to do (and ony you know!), I suggest you go with it but do also watch out for the red flags every now and then!!
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (31 May 2006):
 Well first off find out if hes thinking the same. See if he wants to have another go. Maybe the time apart is what you both needed and now you have started again. Have a chat and see if you both have at least some of the same goals, and see where you would both like to be headed. Im sure from what you say he must be feeling the same way. There isnt any reason why it cant work, you do have a child together and if you both feel right then go for it!
Good luck
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reader, camille +, writes (31 May 2006):
 All I can say to that is, who knows? You know him better but I do think that SOME people can change and perhaps you both have? Perhaps you're both tired of the bad times? May I suggest taking it very slowly and to cut out the sex? Many decisions made when sex is involved, can be clouded. Don't let yourself get used if you want more. Make sure that if you get back together, it's gonna be different this time, for the sake of your son or he'll just get confused. If you think it's worth it, go for it, but tread carefully until you're sure. There's no rush.
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