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writes: I dated a man for 2 years about 16 years ago. He was the love of my life and through other relationships and my 5 year marriage that ended last year, there has not been a day that has gone by that I have not thought of him. Over the years, everytime I have been out of a relationship he has been in one and vice versa. Last year I found out he was getting married to a woman he had known for less than a year. Her second marriage his first at 50 years old, she's 43. I was devastated. I asked him if he was absolutely sure or if maybe there was still a chance for us. He said that there was always a chance, but yes, he was sure and he had made a committment and beyond that he was actually quite rude to me. I have heard she is very pretty and quite wealthy. He is a Dr. and well off in his own right. They are building a house together on property they bought about 3 or 4 months after they first met. I have not spoken to him since our last conversation, 3 weeks before he married. I did not want to interfere with his new life. Last week he called me late at night, slightly inebriated and, over a 3 hour conversation expressed that he loved me, was in love with me and always had been. How he has wanted to have a child for many years, but his new wife doesn't want anymore children (she has a 15 year old son) and she is not the person with whom he would want a child anyway. He asked why I had settled for my husband and ultimately had a child with him and why I had not tried to get back with him first. I told him that since he never really came out and stated how he felt that I didn't think he was interested in me for a serious relationship and reminded him how he had come across during our last conversation before he married. Now he says that's what he wanted all along. I told him that if he got out of his situation (many prenups in place, shouldn't be too costly) then we could get back together. Again he told me how much he loved me and that it always came back to me. I called him 2 days later and he said he remembered the whole conversation and that he loved me, but aside from that he kind of blew me off. What should I make of all of this? Should I believe there is a chance for us to rekindle our old relationship or just forget about him altogether?
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reader, wookiee's girlfriend +, writes (27 February 2006):
 hmmmm...that's a tough one. one minute he's tellign you he loves you and has always wanted to be with you, teh next, he 'blows you off'. i'd say hold on and keep an eye on him and his relationship. he's married to this new woman so i'd let him get settled into it. i'd say you should forget about him in a serious relationship kind of way because you said he called you and told you he wanted a kid with you because his new wife doesn't want one. that sounds suspicious to me. so i don't think rekindleing is the best thing to do. hope this helps, luv!
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