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female
age
30-35,
*telger
writes:I found out that my boyfriend who I have been with for over 6 months has been texting another girl for about a week. I called the girl myself to ask what was going on and she had said the the day before he told her that he loves her and would date her in a heart beat. She told him not to say that because me and him are good together and he said he knows that but we had just been fighting a lot lately. When I confronted him he lied about it at first but eventually agreed that in fact that was exactly what he said. We had a long talk which consisted of me yelling at him and crying uncontrollably. He couldn't even look me in the face. Eventually we got out some things that were bothering us both. He would ask me to go do something with him but his friend was going to be there and I would always tell him no, which he finally told me was hurting him because he always does what I ask him to do. However, the reason I was saying no is not because I didn't want to be with him, it was because his friend points out every little thing that is wrong with me and if I speak up for myself he acts like he is going to hit me. After all of this came out he said there is no way he really loves the girl and he was not wanting to break up with me, that he loves me and never wants to lose me and he was crying and shaking and kept hugging me so tightly. He always wants to be with me, doesn't it seem like if he really wanted to cheat on me that he would make excuses not to be with me. I mean every day he wants to be with me, even now that school has started back he wants to spend as much time with me as possible. When I say I have a softball tournament he asks my mom where it is because he said that is where he is going to be. He even wants me to go to the deer lease with him when he goes. Please just let me know if you think this relationship can be saved. I still love him just as much as ever and I truly think I was driving him into another girls arms.
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reader, Matto  +, writes (26 August 2009):
 Girl i'm so happy for you because you discovered your problem earlier. Just keep close to him and do things that'll please him because he loves you to have dosclose the truth to you.
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reader, Trans Am Man +, writes (26 August 2009):
 Listen I have this girlfriend that I love more than anything in the world, I wouldn't trade her for anything. But there this girl that i've known my whole life and everytime I'm with her I just get these feelings for her. So trust me your guy is still in love with you and wouldn't trade you for anything either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009): I think it can be saved - it fact I think you are on your own way to save it. You've managed to communicate to each other some stuff about the relationship - and although yelling probably wasn't the best way to get your thoughts across! - at least you have said it now. Make sure you speak the truth to each other - and even with your dislikes you could explain them and work round them together. It seems like you both want this to work out - he's making an effort to be with you and you still love him...so yes I think you can make it work.
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