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writes:My girlfriend and I dated for 2 years. During that time we had no problem showing each other affection, having sex, being around each other and genrally being in love. We spent as much time together as we could and didn't care who knew about us.Then I was accused of stealing at work. As she worked for the same company she ended our relationship as soon as she found out about the accusation. It all happened so quick it left me wondering if she was just waiting for an excuse to leave! Needless to say the accusations were found to be false after an investigation, but not before I resigned, disgusted at the accusation.During the split I was devastated so begged and pleaded for her to take me back. But she wouldnt. She carried on with her life as if we had never been together, she partied and went out with friends as I sat at home feeling sorry for myself. After 3 months I managed to pick myself up, got on my feet and felt good in myself. I got another job and was back socialising. Because I wasn't as interested in her, she (my now ex)began showing interest in me. Then she said she would have me back. But she laid down a condition, which was; no one must know about us! Because she asked me back, my guard was down and I agreed. I thought this condition would only last a month or two at most. But its been 2 years now since we got back and she still won't tell anyone about us. I feel like some dirty little secret she is ashamed of.On top of that, she won't show affection to me, won't hold hands in public, won't kiss or let me kiss her, and sex is once a month if I am lucky. And its not exactly sex, because she don't like sex now, she just does it for me, and once I cum then that's it, all over with, as far as she is concerned. As for moving in together, that is never going to happen according to her.I don't think I can put up with this any more as it eats away at me day after day. We used to be happy together, now I started to make excuses not to see her because its just so draining being with her.Everyone I know tells me to leave her and find someone who wants to be with me. I'm slowly coming round to that way of thinking. Can this relationship be saved and if yes then how, or is it time to move on?
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reader, Lee jong  +, writes (25 March 2011):
 Its time 2 move on brother u ve got nothing 2 loss now it takes time 2 b on ur feet again so but seconds 2 fall again. Love with conditions is uncomplete is like u are having affair with someone's wife. Forget about her before she damaged ur healthy
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