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writes:I have been getting very close to a lady who was on the verge of divorce, but her husband has manipulated her to go back together, they did seperate for months, he was gambling and drinking, but it does look as if they are back together, they were walking down the street together and she did not text me over xmas, i am gutted we were hitting it off great she was happy so she told me.Do people think it works second time around, i for one know it did not work in my relationship, after a few months it was dreadfull.What are your thoughts on second time around, have you been there, if so let me know, i dont know what to do now, i am devastated, i love her so much and i know this could be a mistake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question prenezmoila
Thanks for your reply, i think its a mistake her having him back, she confided in me about him, i give her very good advice, and she was starting to enjoy herself, but her ex as wormed is way back in, he is working, but has no home of his own, he is sleeping on someones sofa, he claims to be giving up his drinking, he smokes like a train and he gambles heavily.
I was in a similar position with my ex, i had her back and 4 weeks later it was dreadfull, i knew i had made a massive mistake, it ended in tears.
I know this guy is manipulating her for his own ends and she has bought it, all i can do is stay on the sidelines, its hard to swallow, i know she likes me she told me, i have now lost 2 stone and feel and look great after being sick, i am know training in the mountains to get my fitness back, not being big headed, but women are really getting interested in the new me, but i was a fraction from being with this girl i love, and it was him that was manipulating her all along.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): Well I have to say how wrong you are and it can and does work second time around, as me and my other half are actually happy.
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reader, prenezmoila  +, writes (29 December 2008):
 The big deal is, if it didn't work out a first time, though feelings may return, it ended for a reason. If they get back together a second time, it will almost surely end for the same reason it did the first time. For her to not realize that is difficult, but it is something she must learn on her own. The best you can do is, in loving her, be there for her whenever she needs you, and stay out of the way when she needs her space. Good luck to you.
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