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*evanofdarkness
writes:Here's my story i've met this wonderful beautiful girl over a Videogame (Final Fantasy XI) a MMO that we have played together for a year then i asked her out. we where dating for a year and a month, she lives in the UK - Essex and i live in Germany - Frankfurt we often talked about or atleast i did that she and i could move in together that i would move to the UK and get a place since i have an aunt that lives in the UK and wouldn't mind me moving in with her until i get my own place over there, so all and good we had a good relationship we never had any fights always had fun or atleast most of the time we had fun and we where talking about having children someday and already had some names thought out if we did have kids someday, she did say she doesen't like me getting jealous alot because i get the feeling sometimes that some guys want to take her away from me which i worked on then in September out of the blue where i was playing some other videogames with a couple friends of mine for 2 weeks she wants to break up with me i've spent 1 year and a month with her 24/7 without my friends then where i take a 2 week break off that game and still staying in contakt with her she wants to break up with me telling me this isn't working out i asked her why she said well you weren't spending anytime with me on FFXI (Game)for the past 2 weeks and i feel more attracted to girls then guys anyway. i knew she was a bisexual and i didn't had a problem with it but all of this trouble started with her new 3-4 friends she met, so it's been 3 months now and i miss her so much she won't reply to any of my emails, calls anything and i just can't accept the fact that i lost her i love her way to much i just want her back so much and i know i can't force her to be with me and i don't want her to be with me if she doesn't love me but the time we where together she said she loved me and i know feelings change but that time she and i spent together means alot to me i don't know what to do i trusted her so much now i can't trust anyone nor love anyone but her.
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reader, Hrywnak  +, writes (16 December 2008):
hey revan, i'm a fellow FFXI gamer like yourself and have lots of fun gaming in vana'diel.however i have also spent a lot of my time chatting and being friends to people in chat rooms, private messaging, yahoo, msn etc and it's a very different place to be with someone virtually than it is when you are both characters in the same game.a lot of people i know in the same game have struck up similar relationships and where in some cases it works, a lot of the time i see it doesn't.i could suggest if she still wants to be your 'girlfriend' and you want to be a part of her life then you could try arranging to meet up with her on a short break first together to see how you do without the game.chances are she lives a very different life outside FFXI and i imagine you do yourself.i think the problem is where you can both occupy each others time doing things together, exploring, chatting, EXP parties, assaults or whatever it is something that you can just break away from each other to do your real life stuff from and continue when you log back in. real life relationships are very different and you may also see the culture clashes between you too if you meet.
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