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writes:I am sooo confused:( My boyfriend and I broke up last month and I have been in bits. I really really love him and it hurts so much not being with him. The break up was his decision and I definitely played my part in the ending of the relationship by being highly strung about silly things and getting myself worked up.Anyway lately he has gotten in contact with me. I cut off all contact because from everything I've read it seemed to be the right thing to do if I ever wanted him back. So he began texting me, and he started to tell me that he loves me and misses me and stuff. Obviously I have had a guard up and I know this has been annoying him. We have had bits of contact here and there and on nights out he comes up to me, telling me that he loves me and stuff. He never really liked any of my friends and never made much effort with them, but now he's suddenly being really nice to them and making this effort. On a night out recently he came up to me to talk, and pretty soon we were kissing. I spent most of the night with him and we laughed so much and had great chats. Over the weekend we have been texting a bit too. Last night though he text me and was like 'you are such a f**king loser..you are so 2 faced'. I didn't know what was going on and he wouldn't explain himself. before I would have gotten upset and pleaded with him to tell me why he was mad, but last night I just said 'I do not deserve to be spoken to like that so forget it'. Then we were on the phone for like 6 hours and he was telling me that he loves me and misses me etc. We were chatting about lots of stuff and again were laughing so much!He ended the phonecall very suddenly thiough and now I just don't know what to think:( I'm so confused. Can someone please give me their opinion on what they think this is all about?? Thanks so much.xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): The dude is not well.
Still I really think if he loved you he should never swear at you. Its not polite and its shows him up. I thgink the guy doesnt want you but doesnt want anyone else to have you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): He's obviously the two faced one for calling you a"f**king two faced loser" after telling you he love's and wants to get back with you. Idk really, i think you should put him back in the past where he was, because he sounds too unpredictable and full of resentment and hatred for you.
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reader, Krost Storm  +, writes (31 August 2009):
Most likely he cares but rumors are getting the best of him and he's being too stuborn to tell you whatz going on lol I waz the same way with my wife
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): Talk about Jekyll and Hyde! That must have been really confusing for you. Good for you though for telling him you wouldn't let him speak to you that way. Nobody deserves that kind of treatment.
I really don't know why he is being like this. Maybe he is bitter about the break-up. Maybe he does want you back. But either way, it's no excuse for him to start being nasty to you.
I would be very careful here. There isn't a lot of information to go on, but this doesn't sound right to me. Maybe you could try and ask him why he says those hurtful things. But if he doesn't respond, then it's difficult to say.
It could be that he is just hurting over the break-up. So I would advise just being cautious with him. Keep your guard up, and see how things go. If he carries on being nasty though, then I don't see that as a good sign. Maybe it would be a good idea to try and move on, although that must be difficult to think about. But really though, you don't deserve to be spoken to that way. So be careful with this. Good luck. x
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