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writes:Hello. Let me tell you the background of this story first. I went out with a guy in the beggining of this year. We went out for about 4 months and something happened between us so i broke up with him. Our relationship became difficult but we still talked and we were friends. Afterall, he lives right across the street from my house so its hard not to. After that, during the summer he desperatley wanted to go back out with me. But, i had moved on and had a new boyfriend. Besides that my feelings that were so deep in the beginning weren't there anymore. I'm thirteen so thats how love goes nowadays i guess. We still managed to communicate and did still have a close relationship because i was always there for him when something happened and vise versa. I had gone through a couple of boyfriends of the course of that summer after him. And, it was time to start school again. He expressed to me his interest in some of my best friends that he knew because of me or through his cousin who had dated one of my friends. His cousin dated one of my friends and we will call her 'Sally'. So the boy told me liked her and i had always opposed the thought of him dating one of my friends because i felt some sortof way. Maybe I thought that he wouldn't go there. But turns out he decided to. Now this girl 'Sally' is going out with him. Honestly, i don't have any feelings for him whatsoever. If given the opportunity which i have been i wouldn't go back out with him. Besides that I have a boyfriend that I'm extremely happy with. And our relationship is going great.The thing about this is that every morning at our school the boy who my friend 'Sally' goes out with comes to the school to see her before going to his own school. The schools are near each other and go in at different times. Sometimes, it becomes difficult to see them together and kiss and stuff. I refuse to state that I am jealous because i don't want him and im happy with my boyfriend. However, I don't know what to do because somehow i feel awkward or uncomfortable around her now and i feel like its making people think i still have feelings for him when thats not the case. Can someone please help me figure out a way to get this out of my mind or something?Thanx and im sorry its so long. But thanks in advance for helping me to figure this out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm the eprson who wrote this question.. I just want to add that im definetley sure i don't like him but i don't care to see them make out and what not in front of me. When i do see this i think of all the things we did and it brings back memories im desperatley trying to erase.
On top of that he told me alot of things that i feel like all the stuff he said to me is a lie because of what he's doing. And this doesnt make me want to even be his friend which im not. I know this may be confusing and/or difficult but its just really how i feel about things.
Then again this might be out of anger because sometimes i wonder if everything he said to me he says to her. which means he just said all those things to make me stay with him or whatever
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reader, doracherish  +, writes (29 September 2008):
 hello dear i see that you are actually a bit upset with ur self but the first question to ask is do you really belive you do not love this guy any more and if you really do not love any more try and get ur mind away from it else u will jeperdise ur current relationship cos u are giving every reason to belive u are still in love wit ur ex.
i know how much u wat to have urself away from him but just see as ur friend and be happy if he do have something good going on for him u just have to let the thought of wat you must have shared in the past let go and see him as ur frind i know it's not easy but you have to let him go so you could go on with your life.
There is nothing that you would if not let him go out of ur world and be happy for both party.just see him as ur friend and nothing more
take care of urself and stay safe in ur relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2008): It's normal to feel wierd or sad or whatever when you see an ex with someone new, wether be a friend of yours or complete stranger. It's part of life. Out of respect, I wouldn't date one of my friends ex's. Even though my friend is totally over that person. But, in all honesty it depends on the kind of person you are. Some people don't see a problem with an ex dating one of their friends, cause their over that person, is very confident, etc but then there's some like me who think a true friend wouldn't date an ex of mine, out of respect.
But, we're only human, so things like this happen. You got a boyfriend and your happy, so don't worry about your ex and your friend together... If it truely bothers you, then talk to your friend or just stop being her friend. Cause, really nothing you can do about it, they both have a right to date whom ever they want.
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