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writes:There was this guy who would always flirt with me and for a while I thought there was something to it. But then he started flirted with my sister and even asked for her number and he never asked me I was very hurt by this (my sister always overshadowed me as a child and just as I was coming into my own that happened) but came to the conclusion that it was just flirting. I decided to let it go.About 3 or 4 months later I was good friends with his friend, just friends and he got jealous and acted aggressively. He started giving me a lot of attention and I fell for it straight away. He hinted at dating a few times but asked me out in front of loads of people and since I'm shy I said no!! Also he had continued to flirt madly with my sister which still hurts me.I asked him out over the summer and he said no. I started dating another guy Then when I saw him next he was angry with me and I didn't no why? He got another girlfriend and I just got on with things. He avoided me as much as possible and wouldn't look me in the eye for nearly 6 months. Then one day he told me I dented his heart and how was I going to fix it? (he was still with his girlfriend), I was shocked and was only able to say band aids. I got friendly with another guy and he started getting aggressive again. He then started bitching behind my male friend and my back. And when he heard I was interested romantically in someone else he kept on questioning me about who it was but I didn't tell him. We eventually had a fight about his behavior and I said and the same day he broke up with his girlfriend. We began talking a bit but as you can understand I was very distant. But whenever we did talk after that he couldn't look at me and talk at the same time. He still flirts with my sister. My sister tells me its just flirting but I don't care if its just flirting. In the last 6 months I have seen him around 4 times. I decided to ignore him because I was hurt by everything. Whenever we even pass each other now its awkward. I know this was my choice.My question: Can you please explain his actions and give me some advice about how to deal with all that happened over the past year and a half. I've tried my best to forget him but when he pops up in dreams every so often its hard because it brings up lots of emotions
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2009): yes of course he liked you. guys are very weird to understand they think that if they find someone close to you and do something with them you'll get jealous thats excatly what he tried. he thought that you would tell him the way you really felt but it didnt him asking you out in front of crowds was him trying to show off how manly he is you saying no crushed him because he thought that if you really liked him youd say yes. i honestly dont think its right for your sister to be flirting with him she has no right to even if he flirts with her. i would say just tell him how you really feel and if he feels the same way go for it otherwise just leave it in the past and let your sister flirt with him. just forgive and forget. its out of your hands.if you need anymore advice just ask.
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