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writes:Hi. I'm 14 years old and I have a problem, although strictly speaking, it isn't about a relationship...like a boyfriend or anything. It's about my family. I have a brother that's two years older than me. Lets just say he's named Connor. Well my Mom always takes his side over everything and never believes me...ever. She thinks he's an angel and I'm the devil. We are a religous family and she has told me frequently that I'm going to go to hell, because I'm a bad person. What I'm asking for is someone that I can email to...just a friend really. Any sex, age anything. Just on here though - I have been told the dangers of the internet don't worry :) Rather than just posting a question every time things get bad...I would rather I had someone, anyone that I just don't know to tell them how things are occasionaly. Whatever my Mom says, feels and thinks..I'm not a bad person. My friends all know and everything, the way I'm treated isn't a secret, nor is my past. But I don't wanna get into that right now :)This isn't really a suitable question but I hope someone publishes it because I do need something.Thankyou in advance to everyone - if I do actually get an answer.
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (23 December 2008):
 I dont want to belittle your question, but I have to (as a Mom) question the veracity of it. I have two children myself and whenever there is a tussel I try very hard not to take sides, but sometimes I just have to. Whenever that happens whichever one whose side I did NOT take accuses me of loving the other more, always taking the other ones side and of hating them. This is NOT the case, of course! I love both my little guys and try extremely hard not to favor one or the other, but that is their PERCEPTION at the time. Is is possible that your mother doesnt really hate you, but that that is your perception in your hurt and angry state? It is very hard for me to imagine a mom hating their child!
The teen years can be especially trying, both to moms and children. My older son is 12 and just starting to enter that very difficult stage and his PERCEPTION of unfairness is increasing, but nothing has really changed. It is just his hormones and this difficult time of life.
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reader, ImperfectlyPerfect +, writes (23 December 2008):
ImperfectlyPerfect is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi again, thanks so much for both responses! As for the first answer, I have a sister and she's treat the same way my brother is...like a saint. I'm the only one she hates.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): hmm, i think you need to sit down with your whole family and tell them how you feel or sometimes writing a letter is easier. its not good for a young girl to be brought up this way.
well you can always message me when you need someone to talk to
good luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): Why don't you consider talking to your pastor or priest? It's not healthy for a mother to treat her daughter like this. Religion shouldn't be used as a way to control others, or whatever her intentions might be with treating you so.
Do you have any ideas about why she does this? Have you noticed the way she treats other women? Maybe she is just one of those women who don't get along with other females.
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