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writes:can you help desipher this guys actions?!I've read about and 'signs he likes you' and stuff..thi guy..the facts...*he looks at me alot, i catch him looking at me..and i often have to turn away first..*if his mates are teasing me, he doesnt get involved but laughs along. but sometimes he will tease me (only joking of course)*Its always me that speaks to him first (but he does text back and not half heartedly-we hav longer txt convos then in real life)*hes very quiet and doesnt speak much in school shich could explain why we dont talk as much in school..help?!we have sweet txt convos..but I feel like im making alot of the effort-i have dropped hints that I like him..I just dont know what to do (we're both shy..he's one of the cool kids and hangs around with lots of boys, but i see him looking at me so much!)
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reader, LampHead  +, writes (25 February 2009):
 How old are you exactly? Different boys act differently at different ages. People around the age of 16 start to become more extrovert and confident around the opposite sex I have found. Little things like holding hands, that used to seem big, just become nothing in particular. I inadvertently made a girl fancy me recently by kissing her on the cheek at the end of a drunken house party to say goodbye. I was seeing a girl at the time, and thought nothing of the kiss... Grown-ups do it all the time, but she became really upset with the fact I asked out the girl I was seeing, after just a little kiss on the cheek. Just try and get close to him, see if he's comfortable around you, even if he is drunk, it will help you to understand what's he's like, and will make him more confident. Your birthday party sounds like a good time to work things out. Dance with him if he's that sort of person, or just hang around with him, haha.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhm..your right..its just the shame I will feel if he says he doesnt feel the same..iv never seen him with a gf and so dont know how affectionate he is with a girl- if you get me?
he talks and mucks about with a friend of mine (a girl) but it mite b because he has known her longer and is more comfortable (its my 2nd year at this new college) its my bday next semester and he is coming to my friends hosueparty..so i may see what happens then?
boys are silly and complicated!
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reader, LampHead +, writes (25 February 2009):
Hmm. Maybe he's to shy to make the first move. You might have to do it. Some boys prefer it if girls make the move first, I know its not the conventional way things are supposed to go, but different people do things differently. Telling you have fancied him for ages, but haven't been brave enough to tell him, and then, if he likes you to, then he will admit it at that point. Iv had girls liking me in the past that I didn't know about, and if I had known, I would have told them. Even if they are dropping hints, boys cant always tell if a girl likes them or not. I used to like to know if a girl liked me first before I asked her out, but I would find out straight on, I wouldn't try and pick up little signals.
Just tell him how you feel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009): I found a good article that may help you...check it out.
http://teenadvice.about.com/od/datingrelationships/tp/signs_someone_likes_you.htm
If he's looking at you a lot, then it's my guess, he does like you, but is not sure of himself, in his approach. Sounds like you are doing all it takes, to make him fee comfortable and at ease with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut surely it should be up to him to arrange things or at least drop hints too? I have said things like 'I like you..your not THAT mean :)' (tryin to make it seem not as full on by tryin to like add humour into it..) and I txt him always after parties-often because im drunk..but i just dont know..
he does make an effort...but in a way he doesnt..
totally confusing!!!
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reader, LampHead +, writes (24 February 2009):
Sounds like he likes you, typical signs, haha. I'm coming up 16 in 2 months, and I can relate to what he's doing. I think he does like you. Try dropping things like 'Ly' for love you at the end of conversations, see if he says it back, and ask him if he wants to meet up. Make sure you arrange to do something, don't just meet up, otherwise you will be like 'Soo.. ermm.. what you wanna do then...' Maybe a film at your house or go for a walk? Anything that stops awquard silences happening.
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reader, Doctor-CC +, writes (24 February 2009):
this happened to me aswell girl. i heard around that a guy thought i was pretty, so being me, i went over to him and asked him if it was true. being with his friends, they laughed and so did he. i walked away and then he text me saying he didnt mean it. we had messages on msn and they were really lovely. i made all the effort to talk to him or to phone him, so i just stopped talking to him. he realised that i wasnt there to talk to and he started talking to me. i couldnt believe it. all you ahve to do is make this guy wonder what its like to not talk to you and he will realise that you mean something to him and start making the effort.
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