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writes:hi i'm 19, and frickin scared of my first time. Could someone please try to explain the pain, relate it to something? and this is for the people that it really did hurt for? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (18 August 2008):
 The best word I can think of to describe it it 'stretching'... Have you ever opened your mough really really wide, so much that it stung? It's a bit like that.
On a scale of one to ten though, I'd only rate it as maybe a five, or a six at the VERY most.
If you are terrified, it will hurt more, because you will tense up. So make sure you are comfortable doing it, make sure you are well lubricated (both naturally and with over-the-counter lube), and really just concentrate on relaxing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2008): Thank you all for your answers...but I still can't help but feel that it's gonna be worse for me than others...i mean i can't even get a tampon in, it hurts too bad...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): Hey I just did it a few days ago and it just stung a little and I was sitting there thinking- 'yeah it hurts, but tbh I have felt a lot worse' Say you grazed your knee, its like that, but we panic cos we are not used to feeling pain there. Relax and tell him to go slow and you will be fine. Enjoy!
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reader, Dreamie Tofu  +, writes (17 August 2008):
The First time for me it wasnt as painful as i thought of course i was like you scared. But everyone is different. The best tip is DONT be nervous loosen yourself because when your nervous your vagina will be tighten and that can cause pain and USE Lubricant if your not wet because It can help make it easier to enter without hurting you as much. The pain is like...hmm...how do i say i. For me it felt like a VERY little sting and sore then it went away. Tell him to caress you foreplay stimulate you before doing anything because that will help relax your body therefore it will relax your body muscles loosening the muscles in your vagina. Some girls feel burning and sting because they were not lubricated enough skin to skin raw hurts! If you have a hymen it might sting because it is getting teared but of course its not as painful as everyone thought .So use some lubricant and RELAX dont be scared!=]
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): It hurt a little for me.
Luckily the guy I was with understood and took it easy... He kissed me all the way through to take away from the pain.
I don't think there's anything I can really compare it with. It wasn't a sore as getting my tattoo, if that helps. :)
Just make sure there's lots of foreplay and that you're as relaxed as you'll ever be and it should be less painful.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (17 August 2008):
 for some it can hurt a little or alot.. although it feels like a big nip then it only hurts a little after that and possible bleeding..but go slow and use some lubricant ie durex that should help but its not horrendously painful bit like a injection sore at first then just uncomfortable.. hope that helps good luck aphex xx ps remember protection for stds and pill or implannon unless you want children. and no the pull out method does not work x
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