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writes:For the last three years , I have been in a relationship with girl who is from extremely rich family whereas I am from middle class family with good educational background but not having decent job matching my qualification . Her parents are down to earth and even her father offers me job in his company but I want to get to the top on my own. My girlfriend is good looking and but can be unbearably proud at times…she makes fun of my old car, cell phone set and also dressing. Though, my all friends appreciating my dressing sense but still she will make fun of it. I don’t answer back except give her weird smile. With all this, she also loves me like hell . But few nights back she crossed all the limits of everything in front her parents on dinner saying the dish I was eating right now showed I was from middle class. Her parents scolded her for that but she kept on laughing. I just had tea afterward at her place and left without saying anything . Then for next three days, I also left the city for my hometown and kept my cell phone off . I spent two nights at my home, one night at beach. Three days back, I came back to the city and found her in my front of my apartment crying . I told her that I wanted to breakup with her because I can’t take this anymore . She bowed down on my her knees saying that she did not want to break up and I should be patient with her to let her change her attitude gradually. She is right now with me and making tea in the kitchen. My question is can she change or has she got used to making fun of me being "middle" class ? Or I am blowing up this out of proportion? And why this world is divided in so many classes ? I love her but I wish she could have been from middle class. Oh yeah I didn’t say I love you to her till recently, whereas she has said it manner times and in a very passionate way , why I can’t utter this word in front of her? Even we have physical love making encounters, still I haven’t said to her “ I love you”. She’s hell of a talkative, whereas I am reserved and let my expressions do all the talking . Who is on the fault me or her? I need to get changed or her? She will be out any moment, should I say I love to you her now? Will that change her? I know I have asked too many questions but that’s how things have been happening in our relationship for the last three years. I would be looking forward to have you people help me on this. Thanks in advance!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2011): Stay with her. Her parents should start calling her middle class because it's not her money. It will take time but she'll grow up eventually. And please, please, tell her that you love her. You can't just let your expressions do all the talking, it takes time to read expressions. It's pretty easy to hear an I love you and gauge if the person means it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2011): I have a friend that went thru the same thing.. He met this extremely rich girl from Germany..although the girl never put him down about him being middle class and loved him a lot. He felt awkward around her family when they went for diner and church every Sunday. The big house, the circumstances just made him feel low and because of that he left her, because he said it was making him less of a man. I think you should not stay with her, it will make your life miserable - you will come to an age when you realize that life is not all about money, and money can't buy happiness. I am telling you !!!
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