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writes:hey I'm new to all this relationship thing cuz it's never bothered me that I'm single or anything and so have never had a proper boyfriend unless you count one I had when I was little lol. But I'm kinda friends with this lad in my class, we aren't close friends or anything but I seriously like him, he's all I think about but the thing is I don't think we have much in common. We're very similar people but then again very different, like he's obsessed with bands and music and stuff and I'm not. He has a very musical family and I don't. etc, you get the picture we're quite different. We don't talk as much as he does with some people but then again he's known those people for longer and I just don't know what to say to him but when we do talk there's something different in the way he talks to me, like his voice (although it isn't different as in softer or louder, there's just something in the way he is.) We are very different in the stuff we are into but at the same time don't know each other very well. Thing is, this stuff that I'm not into he's extremely into like it's his life or summat. But I really like him and just wondering can relationships work with people who hardly have much in common or who are totally different and how do they work like this?. Advice would be great and if you know of anyone who has had the same problem as me and it succeeded I'd love to know! Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, kinky minx +, writes (6 April 2008):
of course it can work me and my boyfriend hardly have any thing in common and do not share any of the same interests but you just have to give and take for example my boyfriend plays football i cant stand football but i will go and watch him play i love going shopping my boyfriend hates it but then again which man does like going shopping but he goes shopping with me we have a good healthy relationship and it's coming up too our 3 year anniversary so yes you can do it just give it your best shot and then if you dont think it is working end it there are pleanty more fish in the sea, it's not really healthy to be with some one who likes alot of the things you like because it can get boring and nobody wants a boring relationship anyways good luck with it all x stacey x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (6 April 2008):
Hi,
The answer is yes. People can be hugely into different things and still have a great relationship as long as they have something they are into together.
What are you into? Is there anything he might like to try for the first time? Are there any gigs that he goes to that you would go with him to?
I wouldn't worry too much about whether your relationship is going to be a long term stable thing just yet though as you aren't even going out yet!
You say he is passionate about music, so he is going to want a girl who is passionate about her own things too. Do you like books, films international politics, art, sport?
The one thing I would warn you about.... I would never go out with someone who I work with. Would you go out with someone who you are going to see every day and have to get on with? What if you go out and after a few weeks it all goes horribly wrong?
Whatever you decide, Good Luck! xx
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