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writes:Can people excel at academics get a nice and normal girl friend who loves them. I am one of the people who excel at academics in a pretty good state school in england (I am not trying to show off). I will be in sixth form next year and I have received an academic scholarship that worths 50% of school fees from another really good independent school.I only have a normal IQ but I work my way up from the bottom to the top of the year and I am not a geek or nerd even though my main academic hobbies are mathematics and economics. Moreover, I play rugby for my school and for the sixth form too since I am pretty good at it. However, I never manage to get a girlfriend so far. I don't understand the reason. About a year ago, I got a girlfriend but she dumps me the next day, which was extremely painful since she was my first love and I used six months to get her. I did not give up and chase after her for 10 months but at last she went out with another guy who back stabbed me. Later, I loved another girl who I believe used to fancy me but I only put her at second not the first which was stupid and now she is with someone else. I just can't carry on any longer like this. The only reason I applied to the private school is really close to my current school so I can still stay in touch with the girl I love otherwise I would have chosen the top school in england. Anyway,she doesn't belong to me anymore and I don't want to ruin her life so I think I will just leave it.All my mates who are not as good as me in terms of academics have a girlfriend or kissed a girl before and I am the only exception. I don't feel shy talking in front of girls. In fact, I am pretty close to them and my best friend is a female. I personally think the only thing that prevents me to stop me getting a girlfriend is I love money far too much. During the credit crunch, I provide financial advises to people and my advise was to bet the market to go down and manage to gain nearly GBP1000 in a year from my client. I spent like 5 hours a day on analyzing the trends but I stop it like 3 months ago since is too tiring and I believe money cannot buy happiness. I never mind spending money on girls. I just don't understand how do girls think and what they want. I understand my situation is very similar to some other posts i have seen on here before but this is my first time to post on here and I really appreciate any help or advises from anyone in here.
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reader, Jen1689  +, writes (12 December 2010):
 You're still very young. Don't worry about becoming so serious with relationships just yet, as I promise it will disappoint you. Just do well with YOUR life for right now until you worry about sharing it with someone else. Your time will come.
But, to answer your question, yes. A wealthy and academically successful will have girls all over him at some point. It's just what women are attracted to. My fiance isn't extremely wealthy so-to-speak, but he manages his money well, and he's extremely smart. He surprises me every day with the little tidbits of knowledge, and I love him even more for it =)
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reader, meestal  +, writes (12 December 2010):
You will be very succesful with women, at some point in your life. Don't worry.
If you don't want to wait for that point, but rather have tons of sex and sweet loving now, focus your research on the dynamics of seduction. Do your homework - there is plenty of stuff about this topic on the internet. A smart guy like you, young, with money to spend can get all the women he wants if he puts his mind to it. It's still not going to buy you love though.
Love is an entirely different thing. You cannot force it. You just have to let it happen to you. Sooner or later, it will.
Until that time, don't worry.
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