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writes: I need help so bad. I live in Canada. My 16 year old son got a job this summer and has become friends with a few questionable people, from this fast food place thay all work at. One of them is a 22 year old who has weekend parties (booze for certain, uncertain about drugs) at his apt. This older guy has given my son beer at work one time and I told my son to stay away from him..that this older guy was bad news. We talked about making good choices and choosing friends wisely...something he has been always followed. My son is a good student in grade 11. Although his marks have slipped a bit this year, we are encouraging him to bring them up. This older guy has weekend parties, so my son had previously taken to slipping out (3 times), drinking and doing 'shrooms', etc... worrying us so badly, not knowing where he was. We had had to 'ground him and take his phone away', each time. I asked my son to quit his job at this place. (with the hope of getting him away from this older fellow's influence. My son who up until June 07 was an excellent polite, family oriented, great kid has now told me, last nite ...he was moving in with this older guy and 2 other kids about his age...into an apt. I am so heartsick..I think he will deeply jeopardise his educational future. He told me he would work and continue his school. I don't think he will. I am so worried he will jeopardize his future.. Can he do that?? .Can he move out of his home without parental consent?? Please can someone help me with some advice to save my son. I will do anything to prevent this from happening. He has a good home with family who love and support him. How can I get through to him and can he move out without our consent?? Thank you in advance.
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reader, bobbb  +, writes (9 November 2007):
thank you for repying to my answer i am from the uk and parents are responsible for their children until they are 16, in the uk i don't know how old you have to be in canada. you have to keep on trying to help, with advice and support but the more you try to help the worse it can be have you asked a freind or other family members to talk to him and try to help him and try to find out just what the problem is
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Bobbb,
Thank you for answering. So are you saying to me that he is really legally able to make that type of decision? That I have no say, as his parent and guardian, as to whether he can move out or not. He runs the risk of quitting school,altogether as well as getting into heavy drug use. Am I as his Mother, just to sit back and wtach him destroy his life. Surely there is something I can do, within the courts to keep this older guy away from him and to keep my son on the right track. He is very angry with me right now, he says I am too moral..too ethical..toos strong. I thought all parents were this way? Is this not how we teach and guide our kids, with love and boundaries.
I am lost. I have been crying all afternoon. It's so hard when you love a kid and they tell you "I hate you, because you try to protect me so much!' I am heartbroken, as I know I will lose him forever. And I wish I knew what happened? He has a great home with all the latest gizmos a kid could ask for, He has awesome friends (he refuses to see anymore) who are living at home and striving to be their best. They are good students, with an incredible future ahead of them. Somewhere along the line, my son lost himself, his sense of balance and I don't know where or what happened. I don't know what to do.
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reader, bobbb +, writes (19 October 2007):
Talk to him about this as even though he may be old enough legally hes not yet mature enough to make big changes in his life its a big step leaving home i,ve moved back twice
because i found it hard paying rent and all other things plus if he,s drinking i,d definately tell him to stay at home until he,s older
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reader, bobbb +, writes (19 October 2007):
Talk to him about this as even though he may be old enough legally hes not yet mature enough to make big changes in his life its a big step leaving home i,ve moved back twice
because i found it hard paying rent and all other things plus if he,s drinking i,d definately tell him to stay at home until he,s older
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