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writes: I have know a work colleague for several years, recently my feelings have changed towards him. He is very quiet about his private life. He has mentioned to another colleague that he does not want to get involved with someone from work due to a bad past experience, he is divorced. What should I do ? Am I wasting my time on something that has no chance of working.
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reader, Rican  +, writes (4 March 2006):
That is a tough one. I am in a similar situation. Work is a place where it sometimes seems you spend half your life there, and you can't help it but interact with other co-workers, learn about their lives outside of work, and sometimes even start developing feelings for them. If you're in the same boat as me, you're probably hoping every day you go to work that that person gives you at least a hint that they like you, or have some kind of feelings. I know i do. The girl i'm crazy about at work also told me once she would never get involved with someone they work with because of a past bad experience. But i always think that there's never any truth to that. You can decide to drink a cup of water, eat lunch, or play with your pen. But feelings are something that no one has control of. It just happens, and if a person's feelings are strong enough, it can throw all other pre-determined rules they have set for themselves out the window. I really think that if there's any feelings at all from him towards you, it's enough for him to decide to want to go along with it, or even keep it an out of work relationship, i.e. when at work, you guys act the same as always, and leave all the cuddly stuff when your together out of work. I hope i helped even if it's just a bit. I would also really like to hear a female's point of view on my situation if you could. Any advice i can get would be greatly appreciated.http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-am-crazy-about-this-girl-at-work.html
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