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51-59,
*nonymous_usa
writes:I am good friends with a woman in which we used to have a relationship until last fall. When the relationship ended we both agreed that we would like to remain friends. I wasn't sure how well this would work, but our friendship has turned out better then I expected. In certain ways, I feel our friendship has gone to a deeper level then when we were in a relationship. I am not a mind reader so I don't know how she feels right now about me, but speaking for myself, my love for her has grown stronger and deeper for her then before. The question I have with Valentine's Day coming up next month is: Should I give her a card and flowers and candy? Or should I leave things well enough alone? Even if I don't give her flowers and candy, I feel I should at least give her a card. I really don't know what to do and would appreciate advice. I don't know if I should just accept things as they are (friendship) and move on and look for someone else or pursue further? Can people's feelings for one another change over time? It would sure be nice if we could get on the same page. Just to let we are both Christians. I don't know if she can tell that I still love and care about her, if she can, she is doing a good job on not letting on about it. For myself, this situation is certainly hard on the heart and emotions. If women don't think men have a hard time with emotions sometimes, they are wrong, I can testify from personal experience. Thanks again for your advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): Sounds like you need to tell her what you have told us, and see whether she wants to take the friendship onto a deeper level.
If she says yes, give her the valentine card.
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